Ned Johnson
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601 appearances
3 recordings
1 series
first heard May 2019
last heard Sep 2024
Ned Johnson’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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But as Bill points out, this can convey to kids that, you know, that it's not okay that you have these hard feelings, that we can't handle them, or you can't handle them yourselves.
But it also deprives kids of the opportunity to either sue themselves or to solve the problem for themselves.
Because it's so easy to want to put on a cape and jump in and fix things for our kids.
To make the problem be better.
Which, and it's not that we never do that, but it's so much better if kids can, with our help, fix the problems for themselves.
Because all the research on resilience simply says it's that experience coping, coping with something yourself that develops your ability to be more confident going forward.
And even from a motivational perspective,
We c we're all willing to take on a greater challenge, a greater threat, you know, on the ball field, in the classroom, outside of the home, if we know if we get our butt kicked or have a terrible day, that we can retreat to home and have home be a safe base.
But if again, if I if I come home and I'm super upset and my parents are like, Oh my gosh, and oh my golly, kids can feel like it's kind of not okay to to have things
Things not go well, which if the charge is too high at home, then they're naturally going to not stretch themselves as much outside of the home.
And we we know that to really develop a healthy response, we we we do better to have kind of high stress and then full recovery, not kind of a constant level of moderate level of stress.
We don't want that.
And from my perspective, I think if anything that's shown us, the really
Real world right now has enough stressors.
We don't need to get that at home.
Let's make home be as stress-free and as loving as possible.
And from a happy home perspective.
It's so much easier to enjoy our kids if we're not anxious ourselves.
Whole thing for your cat.
And then that's really, you know, what Tina Payne Bryson would talk about is co-regulating, right?
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