Nicole LePera, Ph.D.
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I think many behaviors end up becoming identities.
Three off the top of my mind that I think are super common and even to some extent maybe even celebrated in our society, one of which is being independent or hyper-independent, especially here in the West where we pride ourselves, right, as not needing anyone or anything.
And of course, that can feel for many of us like a choice, though sometimes
I am of the belief that all things date back to our early childhood.
Independence for a lot of us can end up being a protective stance where we learned at some time in some earlier version of our reality, our relationships, where we learned that relying on others meant disappointment or it meant hurt.
Drive is another really common one.
I think for a lot of us, myself included, overachievers, right?
It can feel like ambition.
It can be celebrated.
By the world around us, the accolades, the letters after our name, though for me, as I know is the case for many others, that drive, that ambition, that presenting ourselves in an achievement-driven way, for some of us can have been at one time the only reliable way that we secured success.
attention or safety and even sensitivity right this attunement that we have to the outside world i hear a lot of talk about highly sensitive people where right we feel like this is just wired in it's a temperament though again i can make a case that that's actually a beautiful adaptation of a nervous system that at one time in an unpredictable or unsafe emotional landscape that scanning right developed from a protective standpoint
I think really common markers are when we have what feels like an oversized, a really big reaction to our circumstances.
Oftentimes in those moments, right, we feel emotionally overwhelmed.
Our reaction feels urgent, like what we absolutely need to do in the moment.
There's no choice to do anything else.
And in our mind, I think often that maps onto circumstances.
all or nothing, black and white type of thinking.
But of course, there's the other side too, where we have an underreaction, right?
Where we need to action, advocate for ourselves, maybe even remove ourself from an unsafe situation, yet we cannot
motivate to do that.
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