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The Jordan Harbinger Show
1142: Cannabis Redux | Skeptical Sunday
Why do some people manage to connect with everyone else so effortlessly? And then there's times when I talk to my wife and like we cannot connect with each other. And it turns out it's just a set of skills, right? Like it's just literally a set of skills that super communicators know and that any of us can learn and become super communicators ourselves. Looping for Understanding.
The Jordan Harbinger Show
1142: Cannabis Redux | Skeptical Sunday
It has three steps. The first is ask a question, preferably a deep question. Secondly, repeat back what you just heard the person say in your own words. And thirdly, and this is the one everyone always forgets, ask if you got it right. And the reason why this is so powerful is because it proves that I'm listening to you. It's really easy to stop thinking about how we're communicating.
The Jordan Harbinger Show
1142: Cannabis Redux | Skeptical Sunday
It's really easy to stop thinking about what's going on until we get in the habit of it. Communication isn't something that happens just one to one. Sometimes it's one to many, but the same principles still hold up. You're still having practical or emotional or social conversations. Laughter is actually one of the non-linguistic ways that we connect with other people.
The Jordan Harbinger Show
1142: Cannabis Redux | Skeptical Sunday
There's been studies that show that in about 80% of the time when we laugh, it is not in response to something funny. It's because we're basically in a conversation and we're saying to someone, I want to connect with you. Nobody is born a super communicator. That's what feels tiring is when you feel like you want to connect and you can't, right? This isn't a behavior.
The Jordan Harbinger Show
1142: Cannabis Redux | Skeptical Sunday
This isn't a personality type. This is a tool that once we learn, we can use when we want to use it.