Pastor Cal

I don't want them to think about just the feeling of love.

I want them to know about the principle of it.

That love is an intellectual commitment we make to fulfill another person's legitimate needs.

It's not just about feeling good.

It's not just about being happy.

Happiness is not the goal of marriage.

It's just not.

It's not.

Happiness is a result of...

of whatever your goal is in marriage for my wife and I. Our goal is to make sure that other couples get the tools and resources necessary to better their lives and to become the people that they believe they could be and that they can influence not only their families, but society in general.

And that is the goal of marriage.

And then you get happy as you hit those goals.

Yeah.

But when people say happiness is the goal, get out of here.

The fact of the matter is, if happiness is the goal, then if I'm happy, you know, I love you.

If I'm not happy, I don't love you.

You know, if I'm happy, hey, we're good.

Happiness cannot be measured.

You know, it's not goals are measurable.

Happiness is not.