Paul Eastwick

Odds are she's motivated to perceive you to be better than this guy in a variety of ways.

So you can lean into that without getting needlessly jealous about the components that you don't have.

And to try to have fun with it because so much of what makes relationships work is the ability to like laugh at ourselves, laugh at our partner, have these kinds of like in-jokes and stories that you can riff off of.

In many ways, this is like the lifeblood of what a relationship is.

It's like the history you have together.

And anything that creates tension, it is so much better to be able to laugh at it and to be able to like enjoy it and work it into your story in exactly the way you described.

It is true that men are more interested in general in casual sex than women.

Yeah, you see that one on average.

I want to add the caveat that is really true when it comes to strangers.

It is true, but far less true when it comes to people you actually know for many of the reasons we've discussed.

That when you get to know people over time, that decreases the threat level, makes women feel a little more comfortable.

So again, if you're a guy and you are out for casual sex, if that's your thing, then

The whole stranger approach thing, really, that is the worst case scenario that really heightens the gender difference.

So try to bang your friends.

Is that true?

Absolutely not.

In fact, if anything, that gender difference is like a tiny bit the other direction.

Romantic relationships matter a little more to men than to women.

Probably because men don't have great social networks outside of their relationships.

So they're like always we're walking around a little desperate because we like forget as we get older how to be friends with other men.