Phyllis Fagell
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361 appearances
1 recordings
1 series
first heard Oct 2021
last heard Oct 2021
Phyllis Fagell’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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Otherwise, why would they have invited you over for a sleepover?
And then you're going to end up in this power struggle where their kid will say, but that was six months ago, mom.
And they haven't talked to me in six months or whatever they might say to prove to you that that person doesn't actually like them.
And what we want to be doing instead is saying, wow, that must feel pretty horrible to feel like your friend doesn't like you anymore.
I wonder what we could do to help you
maybe feel more comfortable at school or feel more comfortable socially and try to shift them into more of a problem solving mindset as opposed to that negative mindset.
Because the reality is kids are getting left behind by friends all of the time.
It's part of the growth that happens, especially in middle school.
Only two thirds of friendships
stay consistent from fall to spring of the first year of middle school.
That means everybody is getting rejected at some point during those years.
And so I would remind them that it's, again, not personal.
Normalize it for them.
Ask them to think about a time when maybe they rejected a friend, not because they didn't like them, but because they outgrew them.
Maybe they were at different maturity levels or had starkly different interests.
So helping them take a more balanced outlook and be problem solving oriented.
Same if they say their teacher hates them.
You know, let's talk about that.
That's a terrible feeling.
Let's see what we can do to help you have a better relationship with that teacher.
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