Priya Parker

It's where the observable behavior, if a stranger was looking at you, the stranger would think, oh, everything's fine here.

They seem to be enjoying themselves.

Everybody's kind and polite, and this looks like a really great group.

But underneath, everybody's simmering and seething.

I mean, I'm half Indian, half white American, so as my half white American son, I could say it's wasp culture.

Have a fun conversation over a meal about what you want this trip to be.

The deepest element of conflict resolution is an invitation to make the implicit explicit.