Ranjay Gulati

I'm going to research this like a PhD and I'm going to find out every single person, the specialist.

I'm going to go talk to 10 different physicians.

I'm going to analyze this like crazy.

I am not going to take your word for it.

And I believe in my efforts to gather more information, I will also calm down a little bit because I feel more in control.

I don't think they're in opposition to each other, but there are two ways in which humans respond.

I think both are powerful ways to cope with fear.

Because ultimately, we're trying to make sure that fear doesn't paralyze us.

What I wanted to point out was here is that when I get into the C's, commitment is where I talk about the stories we tell ourselves.

And not all of the characters, but most of these people have a self-narrative.

You know, we all have a self-narrative in our head.

Who am I?

Why am I here?

What am I meant to be doing?

Some of us are more familiar with that self-narrative.

Others are not tuned into it.

And it turns out this self-narrative that is in our head really shapes how we think about ourselves, how we look at situations.

My mother had a self-narrative.

I'm a self-made woman and no one is going to push me around.

I've worked really incredibly hard to get to where I am and I am not going to let anybody take it away from me.