Rich Forbes
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I've got this client that I coach now who's, you know, mid-40s, on the outside is successful in their career.
They work, you know, in a big kind of PR kind of capacity.
He always has this sense that he, you know, when I talk to him, that he's trying to prove his worth.
Even when we first start a coaching session,
he is trying to show himself to be this very senior position that he is and sort of elevated in that sense.
And I think when you are undiagnosed or you're late diagnosed, particularly those of us that grew up in the 80s or the 70s and 80s and 90s, we have this perception that it's either only us that feels like this or it's everybody that feels like this.
And both of those, I think, come with a need to be
visible for the good things while you continue to contain the bad things that you know circle around inside whether that's because you're you know you don't want to be different from the rest of the crowd so you're going to keep everything contained or you want to be you know kind of uh the lone ranger again you don't want people to see the real you and therefore you contain it and that effort to contain it sounds like it's got a consequence do you think following on from that the
Well, I think it's, you know, people talk about ADHD being exhausting.
ADHD is exhausting.
And, you know, they all come right the way back, I think, to those neurological differences.
You know, that's the essence of everything, isn't it?
When you come back to...
rejection sensitive dysphoria when you come back to kind of emotional hypersensitivity justice sensitivity all of those things congregate together and create you know a thought stream each maybe you know and i know from like i say from my personal experience you know i was um i was in the army for a few years a long time ago i was very much focused on i guess at that time proving myself and i'm proving myself to my dad proving myself to me that i could be you
And reach those higher echelons of rank and status within that time.
And actually, all of those things kind of congregate.
So if I look back on it now, post-diagnosis, I'm kind of seeing the rejection, sensitive dysphoria saying, I'm not worthy, therefore I must change.
be worthy in your eyes and that involves people pleasing so you bring in the people pleasing to avoid rejection sensitive dysphoria kicking in you know the way that you your amygdala or whatever it is kind of opens up and says you're under threat because you're not good enough your people pleasing says well the only way i can be good enough is to overcompensate so you're running those two streams of thought at the same time
You're also running that sense in yourself that you're on your own, that nobody else is in the same position as you, or you're running the thought that everybody must feel the same, but somehow you're the one that's failing.
So there's all of those constant streams, certainly in my brain, certainly in some of the people that I've coached.
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