Roxie Nafousi

all of a sudden you might actually notice you have other skills that you didn't even know you had.

And when you're being scared about, oh, am I funny enough or am I clever enough?

That just boils up everything else inside of you and dissipates.

I wanted to skip to step three because I want people to read the book.

The book's called Confidence, Eight Steps to Knowing Your Worth.

I'm picking my favorite steps and I want you to get the book to read the steps in between.

I love this step, stop trying to be liked by everybody.

Yeah, this is my favorite step too because-

It's such an addiction.

And I had it for such a long time.

And of course, we all still deal with it.

So it's not like I'm beyond it at all.

But I remember it having such a hold of my life that I couldn't be...

authentic, and that's what's so interesting is that we think that the people that are liked by everyone are authentic.

Sometimes the people who are liked by everyone are the people who will tell you that they've just been wearing a mask and hiding their boundaries and ignoring their feelings about how they feel around people.

And actually the person who says no, or the person who says, I'm really sorry, I love you, but I can't make it, or the person who says, hey, I wish I could be there for you, but it's not possible, they're actually being honest

and authentic because they're not bending and molding themselves to get you to like them.

So when you say, stop trying to be liked by everybody, you said, stop trying to be like everyone.

You don't even like everyone.

And I love that.