Sadia Khan

They're not overstimulated.

So when they meet a partner where it's very monotonous, very basic, like doing the same thing again and again, they're totally okay with that life.

And it's beautiful that they found that.

But if you speak to people in L.A., New York, Miami, Dubai is one of them.

Big cities are used to different stimulation every single day.

So those people get used to being stimulated a lot more.

So they're not used to monotony.

So long-term relationships gets a little bit tricky for them.

You have to practice the skills of monogamy.

How?

You have to avoid polygamy, essentially.

It's not so much.

much what you do is what you don't do what you don't do yeah so like for example if you really want to be in a fulfilling monogamous relationship you have to get into the habit of rejecting alternatives that doesn't just mean not going on other dates but it also means like not following people that you're super attracted to not watching porn all the time you don't stimulate yourself with alternatives so people who have the skills of monogamy don't do anything special other than reject alternatives

They keep rejecting.

It's a bit like people who have great bodies.

They don't do anything amazing other than reject really bad food.

And then they just get into the habit of going to the gym and everything like that.

But it's not so much what they eat.

It's what they don't eat.

They just don't have it.