Sarah Jakes Roberts
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first heard Dec 2024
last heard 12 May
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But because I act like everything just happened by accident, it's keeping me from really understanding how to serve other people and giving these tools away and to really empower my team to like own what they know as well.
That's what I'm working on.
And I know that my fear in working on that, the reason why I haven't is because I don't want to come off as an expert when I am still learning. And so I would rather just be like, I'm still learning than to own what I know thus far and allow that to be used for whoever needs it.
It did not.
You're called to this. You're called to do this as you are. to just keep it pure. I think that the hard thing about success, which feels like a very cringy word, is that people begin to impose their strategies onto you. And when those strategies and ideas about who you could be and what you could do and this could happen for you,
It can make you hungry for something that you never even had an appetite for. And so protecting my appetite so that I can continue to just focus on what God has put in my heart is my greatest responsibility. Wow.
Yeah.
Yeah.
I think the line is so thin. that the only way you learn it is by trial and error, unfortunately. But I think some of the qualifying questions I ask myself is what's driving your desire to do this? And being real enough to know when it's ego, being real enough to know when it's wanting to seek approval from certain industries or certain people versus even with this book launch.
Like you've written a book before. So everybody's like, you got to hit the list. You got to hit the list. You need X amount of numbers to hit the list, hit the list, hit the list. But like when I wrote this book, I wasn't thinking about how do I write a New York Times bestselling book.
I wrote this book because I was completely consumed with this idea of what it means to have power and who holds it and who doesn't. And why do we believe that it's only reserved for a few? Like I wanted to explore that. this idea of power. And I did that, which means that this book has already been successful in the way that it was meant to be successful for me.
And so for me to get to this point and then for it to become about, okay, but if you don't hit the list, it wasn't successful is robbing me of the obedience that started the book in the first place. And so I'm going to do everything I can to make sure that people hear about the message. But I'm not going to put the success of the book on whether or not it makes it into a list.
Yeah.
And numbers matter and all of that matters. I think defining what success is for yourself first, because if you don't have a definition of what success is, that's part of even in the book. Like I have to define what power is for me as a person, because if I do not have my own definition, I will be stretching and reaching for someone else's definition of power.
And so I've got to know what it is for myself.
and then i also need to know what is everyone else's definition of success or power in my world whether it is what it like my husband and i perfect example my definition of what it meant to be a good wife was like dinner's on the table at six you know the house is completely clean like you wake up and the house is clean you make sure that before you go to bed you look a certain way like i had all of these different ideas of what it meant to be a good wife
I never stopped to ask the person I'm actually marrying, like, what is your definition of a good wife? Not societies, not what I've seen on sitcoms. What does it mean to be Trey's wife? Because I want to be successful and powerful at being your wife.
He doesn't care about dinner being on the table at 6. He's not nearly as obsessed with cleaning. He wants honesty. He wants communication. He wants loyalty. He wants joy. He wants peace. I would be up making sure the room was clean before we went to bed so that, like, if you wake up, the room is still clean. And he's like, I want you to get in the bed so I can put my head in your lap.
And even for someone who internalizes for my husband to value communication and honesty, sometimes I'll have like a whole dialogue going in within me and he has no idea what's happening and he wants me to speak up. So I know that part of what it means to be a powerful wife to him is me being able to verbalize what I'm thinking and what's going on in my world.
And so we are so consumed by living up to other people's expectations and other people's definition that we're robbing the people who we are in the closest proximity to of us being powerful in the roles that we play for them. Wow. What is power as a spouse? What is power as an adult child? What's power as a parent specific to the people who you are called to serve?
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