Saskia

Saskia offered to carry Marisa's child.

For Marisa, accepting this offer felt like giving up her dream of carrying a baby herself.

But then again, this could be her only option.

Here's Marisa.

One of the things Saskia said to me was, you're comparing the wrong things.

You're comparing carrying your own child with what is possible, and carrying your own child is not possible.

She knew what to push me, and that was a big eye-opener.

Like, oh, yeah, I'm still mourning a loss instead of looking at what I can gain here.

After a lot of conversations, Marisa was in, and Saskia was excited to carry her baby.

Of course, it was a big decision.

It would mean carrying another man's child.

And it would change her body significantly.

So Saskia brought it to Mike.

I discussed it with him.

He said that he was on board and that he thought it was a really loving, special thing to do.

I also talked with the kids about it, you know, told them we were trying to have a baby for Marisa.

The baby might be in my tummy.

And we had this whole kangaroo book that we read to them.

And I don't know that they totally understood.

But once everybody was kind of on board, we started the process.