Shane Parrish

You need the confidence to take the next step.

I use this with my kids as well.

We went cliff jumping a few years ago.

And it's this sort of like one-way door.

You climb up this cliff.

You can't climb down.

You literally have to jump in.

And so I told my son, I was like, hey, if you go up there, it's 25 feet.

This is a big jump.

If you go up,

uh you have to jump or i have to throw you in like you you literally can't come down it's too dangerous to climb back down so he climbs up you know with all the bravado of i think a nine or ten year old out at the time and he gets to the top and he's like oh my god like i can't do this and it's like okay well let's talk about this right first get control of your physiology so let's like back away from the edge and let's start breathing again

get some oxygen to our brain, calm down.

Now walk me through what you're thinking.

What's that voice inside your head saying?

Well, the voice is saying, I can't do it.

I'm scared.

I've never done this before.

Okay.

Well, that's interesting, right?

So let's think of all the moments where you've done something hard.