Sheleana Aiyana

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The School of Greatness · Why the Wrong Person Feels Like Home | Sheleana Aiyana · 26 Jun 2026 podcast

defend or run you know those two options and those are nervous system patterns and so we can't really think our way out of it and it's helpful to have tools it's helpful to have self-awareness but meditating isn't going to be the answer the answer is going to be working with your body to reorient to what it feels like to be safe and secure inside of you so i can be in relationship with you while being present with my own body

So we can have multiple relationships happening at once.

My relationship with me, my relationship with you, the relationship we shared together.

There's this ability once we have a regulated nervous system to know the difference between my emotions and your emotions.

And we don't have that when we're coming from that wounded inner child that gets very thrown off kilter anytime something is disturbed in the safety or, you know, anything with the security is threatened, which can be as simple as for some people as their partner going out for dinner with their friends.

Yeah, for somebody who's experienced betrayal or abandonment or perhaps their parents got divorced and then their mom or their dad remarried and they felt replaced, that's going to be the kind of situation that will cause deep jealousy or feelings of insecurity and worry.

And so again, it comes back to working with the body memory and being able to recognize in those moments, oh, I'm having body memory, then I'm not safe.

But actually, I am safe.

I'm here now.

And it's okay for me to let go of this story right now.

And I'm going to do something to regulate myself, let my partner go and live their life.

Perhaps I can go and live my life.

But that takes work for somebody who's experiencing anxious attachment.

They'll more likely sit.

on the couch and stew and wait for their partner to come home and then create a fight than they would to think to call their own friend and go out and just have a good time, not in a revenge way, but to just actually nourish themselves on a social level or do something that's important to them, like pursue one of their hobbies or get something done that's needed on their to-do list.

And that's what it means to come back to center and to mature in relationship so that we can live lives as individuals and create interdependence.

Oh my gosh, what a big question.

I would say one of the biggest mistakes that people make is confusing their partner for somebody from their past and not being aware of it.

usually that's a parental figure, the mom or the dad, and then acting from that wounded inner child rather than bringing their adult self forward and seeing their partner as an enemy.

Because if you look at people's relationship histories, myself included,

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