Sheleana Aiyana

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The School of Greatness · Why the Wrong Person Feels Like Home | Sheleana Aiyana · 26 Jun 2026 podcast

And self-soothe.

Exactly.

shopping, Netflix, whatever, you know.

And then once we have that relationship built, we can actually start doing the deeper work with our partners.

I don't know if you've ever heard of Imago work with Harville and Helen.

Harville Hendricks, he and Helen, they wrote the book Getting the Love You Want.

And

They're elders.

I've studied with them.

Yeah.

And, you know, them and the Gottmans, those are sort of the elders that we owe so much gratitude to for all of this work that we now access and even many of us teach.

And their whole model is about working with the inner child, which they don't really say it that way, but it's that hurt child and the parent figure and seeing how much we choose our partners based on an exact template of who our parents were, both the good and the bad.

So for example, when Ben and I went, we went to an Esalen retreat years ago before we had our daughter and we did a retreat with them.

And one of the questions was, what is the thing that excites you most about your partner?

What drew you to your partner most?

And what is the thing that your partner does that hurts you the most?

Different, but also they ask you that about your parent.

And so when I looked at the thing that I loved most about my mom was the exciting, spontaneous adventures we would go on.

And the things that I didn't like the most or that hurt me the most was her emotional unavailability and abandoning me when I needed her.

And then when I looked at how I had related to Ben, it was virtually the same, you know, because we were playing out some avoidant, anxious patterns early on.

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