Shonda Rhimes

I was, because that works for me.

I think we do what works.

And emotionally, if you feel comfortable and comforted and a little bit numb, it's hard to think of yourself as doing something that's completely different from the routine you've created for so many years, right?

The routine of our love language is food.

That's how we gather.

That's how we, you know, nobody goes outside and plays football on the lawn in my house.

Like it's not a thing.

Like changing all of those little details about how you think about your world, it's scary.

But I do think like taking that examination and realizing that it's not this giant idea of, you know, I'm saying yes to my health in like this giant vague way.

It's finding like the specific yeses that make it work for you.

So the no's pile up.

You know, they just do.

And then suddenly you're like, I feel terrible physically.

Because they seem very small.

Like, no, I'm not going to work out today.

And no, I'm not going to go to the gym.

And no, I'm not going to eat the salad.

I'm going to eat this over here.

Those no's pile up in very small ways.

And then suddenly your whole life is a completely different way than you envisioned it in your head.