Tamsen

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The Tamsen Show · Healing the Grief, the Love, and the Silence Around Your Mother · 11 May 2025 podcast

Warum denkst du, dass wir das als Frauen haben? Warum denkst du, dass es diese Schämtheit gibt, wenn es um irgendeinen Art von Schmerzen geht oder die Ermittlung von Schmerzen?

Yeah, there's no question about that. It's interesting you brought up menopause, because the number one statement I constantly get is, my mother never talked to me about this.

Every time. No one says, my dad never told me about menopause. They say, my mother never told me about this. So I do think there's a lot of looking back during this time in life, about trying to understand why, feeling a little... Let down by that. Even though it's not your mom's fault or any other female figure, I do think there's a little bit of that disappointment there.

Ja, wenn die Mutter da ist, präsent, bereit, darüber zu sprechen, offen zu sprechen.

I'm curious, you know, we get to this age in midlife where we're oftentimes either taking care of parents. Now the daughter is mothering. We're getting back out there on the dating scene sometimes if someone's gone through a divorce or widowed or starting over again. So I want to hit those two areas.

First, I want to talk about the daughter, you know, mothering elderly parents, because I think that's a topic that keeps coming up over and over. And there's a lot of Und ich höre wieder und wieder...

Was tust du, wenn du eine dieser Frauen bist, die sich mit diesem Thema beschäftigen oder diese Art von Schmerzen fühlen?

Ja, es kommt immer wieder auf. Lass uns über Frauen reden, die wieder verabschieden werden. Denn ich glaube, dass wir das sehen. Ich denke, es kann ein Zeitpunkt sein, in dem du entweder langfristige Beziehungen für die zweite Hälfte suchst, aber es gibt viele von diesen Dingen, die von Mutterhunger übrig geblieben sind.

Sure. All right, Mother's Day. I want to discuss this one because this is one of those ones where after my mother died, I avoided malls. I didn't want to talk about it. I completely shut that off. It can be really triggering for women, whether your mother's here or not, just depending on the relationship.

Advice you have to kind of emotionally protect yourself or at least care for yourself during these times?

Yeah, I agree. It's funny. I don't know whether the advice is to ignore social media or to just be, I mean, you know, you don't want to go around ignoring everything, but I think that's a tough, really a tough day. I have figured out like my own methodology of dealing with it, which I just move on and that's it.

And I don't know if that's good or bad or denial, but I have noticed those warnings now or people identifying mothers in different ways. They'll say like, you know, somebody who is like a mother to me, somebody who Es muss nicht jemand sein, der dich biologisch betreut hat.

So do we need to forgive our mothers in order to find healthy love?

If somebody is dealing with food as a result of things and emotional eating, are there some tips that you can give us to help somebody who may say, I'm an emotional eater?

The hypothetical daughter, would you feed her the way you're eating? What is the most important thing for women to take away from this? I think that we struggle during this time with a lot of different things. Ja, genau. Ein paar Dinge möchte ich sagen. Ich möchte Angst validieren.

If you don't have that, what do you do? Do you look for other people that can fill that role? I mean, I'm sure you fill that role for a lot of your people that come to see you. And I'm sure that's not easy, but I'm sure you do.

Ist das der einzige Weg, das zu tun, an diesem Punkt? Weil ich denke, dass Leute von Beziehung zu Beziehung springen, um das Verlangen zu füllen.

Ist das toxische Liebe? Ist das wirklich so, oder wie definierst du das als nur unheilige Beziehungen?

Got it. So you're still chasing the high. That's right. You're constantly chasing the high. That's right. Advice you would give to your younger self as we wrap up right now? There's a lot of young women that listen. And, you know, I think that younger women are learning a lot from social media for its good and its bad about how to take care of themselves and learning how to nurture a little bit.

But do you have any advice for young women that might be listening to this and struggling with mother hunger?

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