Tanya Coons
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3,654 appearances
23 recordings
1 series
first heard Feb 2016
last heard Aug 2022
Tanya Coons’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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Uh what's the payoff for you having the final word?
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That's that's kind of like do you wanna be right or do you wanna be friends, isn't it?
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It's it's like how do I value my partner and how do I value my relationship?
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If you can see that somebody's trying to talk to you and you're point scoring, then I'm not sure that that's gonna be really helpful and it's certainly not gonna be investing in the relationship.
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And sometimes we have to stand back and look at it, you know, and that that's hard because we might be noticing that our behaviour's not exactly great.
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And we might have to take some responsibility like, you know, I was a bit of a dick in that fight, I'm sorry.
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Or or just noticing when somebody's shut down, it's like, Hey, you know, things don't seem all right.
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Are you okay?
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Maybe I didn't realise how important this was for you.
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They have a wish or a desire more than you know, they're not they're not really trying to score a point.
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most of the time.
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We're we're making ourselves vulnerable.
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We m most of us don't like conflict.
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So it's sort of like, Wow, you know, somebody's been really brave and and sort of put this out there.
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I don't like it.
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And maybe that's making me feel defensive or a bit edgy.
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But if I can bring some kindness and generosity to that, um, maybe there's something that I could do to help.
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Um that's well uh bring your curiosity.
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Yeah.
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So what do we need?
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