Terri (Terry) Cole

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Something You Should Know · The Science of Happier Spending & How to Set Healthy Boundaries - SYSK Choice · 8 Aug 2026 podcast

And the consequence for the not planning might be you get in trouble at school.

And we have to allow those things.

Or they will have to wait until you're done working.

And you can hold that boundary with love.

There's a thing that you have this feeling, and many people have this feeling, that if I don't do it, I'm being unloving.

And that isn't true, especially when you have family agreements, rules of engagement.

And these are all boundary ideas within family systems when we're living together, you know, where you say, these are my hours and I can't be disturbed.

Parent and children, growing children, that can be very difficult.

I think grown kids and their parents

grown-er parents can be difficult as well.

But love relationships, friendships, especially female friendships, can be very fraught when it comes to boundaries.

So it really depends on what I call your downloaded boundary blueprint, which is basically an unconscious paradigm in your mind of what you learned growing up,

from your family of origin, your culture, country of how it's supposed to be in the world, right?

So we have a lot of preconceived notions about boundaries, good and bad.

And I think that understanding what is in that unconscious sort of schema is really important.

Right.

Well, here's the thing.

When we change our relationship dance, our boundary dances with people, especially established relationships, of course, they're going to notice.

Now they can notice.

And when we change, most of the time, people who we're dancing with don't like it because unconsciously they're worried that we'll leave them, we won't love them anymore, maybe they'll lose us because we're changing.

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