Terri (Terry) Cole

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188 appearances 1 recordings 1 series first heard Aug 2026 last heard 8 Aug

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Yeah.

Here's the thing, though.

The more you do it honestly, Mike, the easier it gets.

Where, think about it this way.

You can stay lovingly connected to that person.

And still hold your boundary.

I could say to that friend, listen, Betty, I love you.

I care about you.

And yet my love does not have to be expressed by me having my phone on 24-7 because I need to sleep.

So I'm sorry that you're upset that I'm changing the way we interact.

But this is what I need to do.

Like you may have more than one conversation.

I would say it probably is going to take six months to a year of consistently holding that boundary.

But here's the thing that we have to do if we're the person who wants to be healthier with boundaries is we can't be super thin skinned.

We can't be so afraid of conflict.

that we live in these silent agreements that make us really resentful, because is that loving?

Is that generous?

Well, we start very small and slow.

So I always tell people, especially if you have a tendency to say yes,

instantly, like some people are the auto yes or the insta yes people, is that we just start by buying time.

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