Terry Real
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and do what I can to help out.
This is a skill that's brand new for our culture.
And if I may, it doubles back on the central issue, which I hope we get to, of men and self-esteem.
Because most men in our culture have no idea what healthy self-esteem looks like.
Self-esteem comes from the inside out.
I have worth because I'm here and I'm breathing.
I don't have to earn it.
I can't add to it.
I can't subtract from it.
You know, it's democracy.
My worth is no better or worse than yours.
I'm born with it.
Men are taught outside in self-esteem, and it's mostly performance.
I have worth because of what I can do.
I have big muscles.
I can land—I can give my wife an orgasm.
I can land this job.
I can hit this homer.
That's great when you perform well.
But when you don't perform well, you go into shame.