Terry Real

But that's what we do.

So when I treat addictions, there are levels.

Level A, the addiction itself, I'm a big fan of 12-step, gets over.

Level B, let's look at the immaturities of your personality that you have to sort out.

Level C, let's look at the early trauma that may be at the root of this.

Let's deal with all three of those.

And it's all wrapped in the circle of learning how to be connected and relational.

That's the ouch that you're trying to get out of

And let's restore that.

And that's all of that work.

Trauma work, you have to make a connection with that little boy or girl that was so hurt.

Personality work, you have to learn how to be mature.

Work on your grandiosity or self-medication, do that per se.

And then as you do all of those layers,

The king of recovery is learning how to be connected to yourself, first and foremost, and to the people around you.

That's the cure for addiction.

And you don't have to talk and just go and be.

You know, my dear Pia, we've been talking about relationship.

Pia said intimacy, which is healing and spiritual, is the conjunction of truth and love, the meeting of truth and love.

And she said 12-step meetings were her model for that.