Terry Real
👤 SpeakerAppearances Over Time
Podcast Appearances
It's like, you know what?
Who knows what happens next?
Sit down, have a cup of tea, and look at the trees.
As a family therapist, I love hanging out.
Families operate in the interstices.
I hate quality time.
I hate it.
It's a yuppie invention.
I can work 80 hours, but then I'll sit at a table with my kid and really stare at them and really give them attention.
No.
Families operate, you want your kid to talk to you?
They're in the backseat while you're driving them to hockey practice.
Then they'll open up and talk to you.
You're cooking together, and all of a sudden they start burbling.
You don't focus the laser beam of your attention on them.
They'll clam up.
One of the things that families can teach us about relationality, relational joy, is hanging out, being.
It doesn't have to be so focused.
Be a little less perfect and be a little more human and just let yourself be nurtured in different modes than the ones we're used to.
Devastating, yeah.