Terry Real

And about six months into this absolute true story, he comes to me, big smile on his face.

He says, I got it.

I said, okay, tell me, there's a story.

He goes, this Sunday, I had the best day of my life.

I said, go on.

He said, my wife, me, my four kids, we didn't get out of our PJs all day.

We sat around and played Monopoly from 7 in the morning till 7 at night.

I had no idea where the time went.

I had no idea what we were doing.

And it was the best day of my goddamn life.

And I said, welcome to relational joy.

That's what I want.

And that's what we're born for.

You know, I deal with really tough couples, really tough guys.

The ace in my pocket is relational connection is what we're born for.

And people move very quickly in the therapy I do, not just me, but all the therapists we've trained.

And the reason is that our whole art as RLT therapists is moving somebody out of disconnection

into the jet stream of connection and relational joy.

And once somebody is in that jet stream, oh man, it's just so much better than the disconnection, that the jet stream takes them and they move very quickly and transformationally because this is what makes us happy.

This is what fulfills us.