Tessa West
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187 appearances
3 recordings
1 series
first heard Jun 2023
last heard Sep 2024
Tessa West’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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Are you really sensitive to patterns of intermittent reinforcement at work?
Does it take almost nothing for you to get pulled back in?
And can you predict when your boss is going to be super nice to you or give you those kinds of benefits in much the same way that
Having your boyfriend show up and give you flowers after a fight probably isn't the best signal that things are going well.
We have ups and downs.
We have ambivalence.
Some days we love it, some days we hate it.
Often we love and hate things at the same time.
And our relationships with our careers have a life trajectory in much the same way as our marriages do, our relationships with our parents and our children.
And so I like to think about a career like a relationship partner that you're constantly having to monitor, check in, making sure things are going well in order to make sure you're staying on the right track with your career.
This is a natural experience.
The main things are for you to look out for a couple signs.
One, are you really sensitive to patterns of intermittent reinforcement at work?
Does it take almost nothing for you to get pulled back in?
And can you predict when your boss is gonna be super nice to you or give you those kinds of benefits?
Those kinds of moments can really pull someone back into a relationship with a career that isn't super healthy in much the same way that having your boyfriend show up and give you flowers after a fight probably isn't the best signal that things are going well.
It can be a good thing.
But like any relationship, you can't be the only one trying to make things work.
If you're the one making all the effort to have the date nights, to really get to know your partner, to reinvigorate that relationship.
you need to see signs that that relationship is doing the same for you, that that partner is doing those things for you.
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