Tim Grover

You're never going to become an influencer or whatever your goal is.

Replace influencer with whatever your thing is.

The thing is that you are still closer having done three than having done zero.

And so it's just about directional correctness and realizing that... Criticizers are more often correct, but when it matters most, incorrect.

But for some reason I thought that I needed to be the guy.

And I said, no, you know what?

You don't need to be the guy.

Your leader, you need to support your leader.

And it's not about you.

And so that right there also changed my attitude because then, from then on, in my career and in my life, I realized, hey, I don't always need to be the center of attention, which is what our ego wants us to do.

Our ego always wants it to be about us.

And it's not about us.

It's not about us at all.

In fact, in a situation like that, where the platoon commander wants to do something, maybe he sees something that I don't see, maybe he's got a different strategic objective that he wants to accomplish, and I'm undermining that.

And what does that do to our platoon?

Hey, it makes me feel great because I think, oh yeah, I might not be the guy in charge, but I'm out here making the calls.

That's your ego.

And what you have to do is subordinate your ego and be supportive of the person that's in charge and you move forward together as a team because that's what it's about.

It's not about me.

It's about the team.