Tina Payne Bryson

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848 appearances 2 recordings 1 series first heard Mar 2020 last heard May 2020

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The key takeaway here

Is that it's totally okay and even healthy for our kids when we have mild ruptures, not obviously abusive ones.

Um, let's say I yell at my kids or I throw the dice across the room and yell at them, as long as I make a repair.

it's actually good for our kids.

So when I say, Oh my gosh, you guys, I'm so sorry I did not handle that well.

That must have been really scary when I did that.

I am so sorry that that happened.

Will you forgive me?

Right.

So I do something like that.

I make a repair.

If we h make repairs with our kids, it actually gives them some predictability even in the face of the unpredictability.

Because they know, okay, my mom's kinda crazy right now, but things are gonna get okay again in a little while.

And what it does is it expands their window of tolerance for

knowing that relationships can be messy and can have conflict, but that things get okay again and feel good again.

So and it also obviously teaches them how to apologize and make repairs.

So I think, you know, the takeaways for Safe are

To not do h any harm, but also to make repairs when we when we do, which we inevitably do will do.

They can.

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