Tom McCarthy

Yeah.

And then one of the big things that really changed my life was when I understood or when I learned that you can choose how you feel.

The outside event is going to happen.

But we all have, like you and I could have the same thing happen to us and you would go, wow, thank God, like that really moved me in a good direction.

And I could still be sitting here going, you know, gosh, darn it, that's so unfair.

Why'd that happen to me?

It's not the thing that happens that really determines whether it has value or not.

It's your way of looking at it, your way of perceiving it.

And it is very easy to be a victim.

I mean, there's so many shows on TV that you watch, victim this, victim that, people blaming.

I think we're in a time right now where so many people are pointing the finger at other people and trying to say, you're the reason I'm not successful or you need to change, I'm fine.

And when we truly take responsibility, it's not easy.

It's so much easier to be a victim.

So that's the challenge.

But when you go against the grain and you just say, look, I take responsibility for anything that happens to me and I'm going to use it in a way that makes me better, your life changes and you become powerful.

And what my book was about is how do you shift reality?

You shift reality by taking responsibility.

And when you do that, reality starts to bend in the direction you want it to.

And I have a quote in the book that, and I do this on my emails too, average conforms to reality.

Oh, that's bad.