Trent Shelton
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first heard Nov 2024
last heard 28 Jul
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Do I want to every minute of her life? Yes. No, I don't want you to go out there, babe. But I realize that's what she needs. Friendships, boundaries, your work.
boundaries and the thing that i see is that so many people aren't setting boundaries or they're setting boundaries and not standing on their boundaries so if you're the go-to person for everybody else but you can't go to anybody set a boundary say hey if you can't do this for me i'm not doing this for you no more unapologetically if you're the person that's always being there for everybody if you're somebody's 2am and they call you with all their problems oh my gosh
Then set a boundary. Hey, you know what? If you're not going to take my advice, don't call me no more with your problems. If I can't call you at 2 a.m., I call you, you sleep. I get the do not disturb. Then set that boundary. And boundaries aren't a mean thing. It's a necessary thing to protect your peace and to protect your energy.
Because as we said at the beginning of this episode, you don't get an infinite amount of energy to use. Like, no, it's a battery. If we're honest, some of us protect our phone battery more than we do our cell battery.
So to bring this back, set boundaries and look at boundaries as bridges. And I think it will change your life when you ask yourself what you need. Can I give a three step process with that? Please. Let's go. Number one, when you're setting boundaries, first ask yourself. What do you need in your life right now? Write that down, whatever it is. Peace. I need sanity.
I need better friends, whatever it is. Number two, then ask yourself, what boundary do you need to set? Do I need to set that will lead me to what I need? Okay. The number three, which is probably the most important. Why do I have to? not want to, why do I have to stick to this boundary? And this boundary is something that can't budge and write that down. What is it costing you?
I like to call it opportunity costs. What is it gonna cost you not to stick to this boundary? Your future, your peace, maybe you're a mom and you keep saying yes to everybody else and you're frustrated now your kids get that. Maybe you're a dad and you're doing all the things and you can't be the man you need to be for your wife and your family. What is it costing you?
Because it's costing you way more than you think. Get clear on that and start there. You tell people how to treat you by what you accept. You tell people how to treat you by what you continuously accept.
I just miss him.
You're the best. It was supposed to be, it's a break there, right? Yeah. I thought so. Okay. I was just like, I don't think I'm supposed to say anything there. You can say anything you want, Trent. I wasn't sure.
You will always be not enough for the wrong people or person. We build relationships these days, I feel like, off of the weakest things. And no wonder when we go through trials and tribulations, things crumble. If you don't demand your worth, the world will tell you what your worth is. The last time I checked, that's not a good price tag and they usually put you on wholesale.
There's this constant battle, I believe, every single day. for our worth, for our peace, for our sanity, for our happiness, for our joy.
I know where that leads. There's no amount of perfection you can give to a person that's committed to misunderstanding you. But once you free yourself from those things and you experience the freedom of fully being yourself, and people fully loving you for yourself, you'll never go back to being someone that you're not to please them.
Solitude is necessary. Sometimes you have to learn how to be by yourself so God can show you what being perfectly loved feels like. And what happens if you try to save a person drowning, they're so frantic, they will pull you under and both people will drown. And so you have to trust that. Some people have to learn how to save themselves. I refuse to lose myself trying to change people.
And some of us, we can't keep peace in our life because we spend our whole entire life trying to change people. And people aren't going to change until they're ready to change. That's a big aha moment. So I want to tell everybody, listen to this, man. Like, stop losing yourself trying to please strangers on the internet.
i don't know if i know a single person who doesn't struggle with this i'm worthy because of how god created me and sees me not how this world views me not by a blue check mark not by six 16 million people following me online i was already worthy before birth just like you i was given worth at my birth i was given worth at my birth when i talk about being guided
Jamie Kern Lima. Jamie, you're so inspiring. Jamie Kern Lima.
Jamie, thank you so much. That was like the best self-esteem booster ever. I appreciate you.
It's tough. First, you have to have a reality check with yourself and understand that because what I've noticed in my own life is been doing this 15 years that most people, when it comes to their worth or how they feel, it's connected to something outside of them, whether it's people's opinions, whether it's the job, whether it's weather, whatever it may be.
And there's this constant battle, I believe every single day, for our worth, for our peace, for our sanity, for our happiness, for our joy. And that constant battle is between the external and the internal. So I always tell people, ask yourself a simple question. Can I control this? If you can't control it, you have to let it go.
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