Trent Shelton
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3 series
first heard Nov 2024
last heard 28 Jul
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It doesn't make me less. It doesn't make me less of a human. It doesn't make me less of an expert. It doesn't make me less of a brand because I'm dealing with things. Actually, this strengthens it. And I had so many people say, man, Trent, because of you these last three years, you have impacted me more than anything over the last 12 years that you've been doing this. So that's why I do it.
First thing I want to say is that's not your people then.
You will always be not enough for the wrong people or person. Always. And I know sometimes that's hard because we want to fit in. We want to blend in. But you got to accept that certain doors have to close. And when you're your authentic self, some doors will close. Friends, family, peers, it closes. And you can't. I know it hurts, but you got to realize there's better doors for your life.
And I know that's easier said than done. I get it, because I was there and I still go there at times. But I trust to say, okay, if a no changes the relationship, then that relationship isn't for me. If me being my authentic self changes the relationship, then that relationship isn't for me. And yes, it still hurts. Yes, I want these people in my life. Yes, I want to be enough.
But I learned this a long time ago, Jamie. There's no amount of perfection you can give to a person that's committed to misunderstanding you. You'll never be perfect for the wrong people. Even your perfection will be not enough. So at some point they're gonna find the real you. And so my biggest fear is people fall in love with this version of Trent Shelton that's not authentic.
They love me for something that I'm truly not. I don't want to do that because at some point, the real me is going to show up. The messy me, the mistake me, the failure me is going to show up and be like, wait a minute, who's this guy? And so if you can't love me at my worst, doesn't mean that you allow me to live a life that That you know that I shouldn't be living, right?
But if you can't love me at my worst, then I don't want you loving me at my best. Because the truth is, every human being, and I wanted to say this earlier about going to church and being judged, never let the imperfections of man or woman keep you from the perfection of God.
Never let the imperfections of man or woman, this world, et cetera, keep you from the perfection of God. And that has helped me so much in my life because when I'm getting judged, I'm like, oh, that's an imperfect person judging me. I feel sorry for them that they're projecting their flaws and insecurities on me. And so again, if I'm not enough for you, great. Thank you. Release me.
Let me go on to something else. And When we're tethered and connected to something, I talk about this in the book, you got to disconnect often. The things that you're connected to are powering you. So some of us, we're connected to stress, we're connected to all these things, and we're connected to, man, our insecurities. And I say, cut the connection. Pull the plug. Disconnect from those things.
And it's hard to go pull the plug when you realize that, man, once I pull the plug, I'm freeing myself. And there's nothing better in this world, Jamie, than... being able to be you and being accepted for you. So I know doors have closed because I'm not a version of professional that maybe the world doesn't want, but I'm okay with that.
I know what God has called me to do, what he wants me to do, and I'm at peace with that. I can sleep at night. I'm okay. I can lay my head down and say, you know what? I am the best version of myself. I might not be them, they, him or her, but I'm me. And I'm okay with that. And so I think it takes time to be able to build that confidence.
But once you free yourself from those things and you experience the freedom of fully being yourself and people fully loving you for yourself, you'll never go back to being something that you're not to please them. So that's what I would say.
Yeah. So number one, like, If you don't want to be hated on, and there's a beautiful quote, I'm butchering it, but say nothing, be nothing, do nothing. If you don't want any type of judgment or anything. So at least I look at somebody hating on you as you're getting attention. And you have to understand this. Some people aren't haters, they're confused supporters.
And what I mean by this, when you look at the word hate, it's such a strong word, but you don't pay attention to things that you hate. Certain foods like ranch dressing, I don't pay attention to ranch because I hate it. When I'm in the salad bar line, I don't even look at the ranch, right? Because I hate it. You don't pay attention to things that you hate.
So if somebody is following your page, if somebody knows your every move, if somebody is making up a fake profile, right? After you block one profile, that is not hate. That's admiration. They just have pride and ego. So it might be a little bit of jealousy and envy there, but actually... They really support you. And in these days, I would just tell you this.
If somebody's hating on you, let it be. Maybe you restrict them on Instagram, but they're adding to your engagement. They're actually helping you. So the more you get out of, oh, this is about me and stop taking it personal. It's a them thing. I've never met a happy hater. Have you? Mm-mm.
I've never met somebody who is happy with their life and loving their life, worried about somebody else and what they're doing. So just understand they're paying you attention. At least you're doing something that's worth attention. So keep doing it.
I definitely can identify with my introverted self. So it's hard because I'm not the guy that's gonna, you know, I'm not the guy that's gonna start conversation. Like I'm just, I'm laid back, I'm chilled. So I understand. How somebody can feel like, man, if I lose these friends that I know aren't my friends, then I'm not going to have anybody in my life. And I just got to be real.
Sometimes the road is lonely. Sometimes I only like to say isolation, but solitude is necessary. Sometimes you have to learn how to be by yourself so God can show you what being perfectly loved feels like. I've learned how to love myself at my rock bottom. When all my friends left, not all of them, because some might be listening, a few was there, but I learned how to love myself.
When I lost my career, when I lost the beautiful things that surrounded my life, I lost a lot of people that I did things for. And so the thing that I would tell the person listening to this or watching this is, With the people around you, number one, would you trade places with them? Not just financially, but like mindset-wise. Mindsets are contagious.
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