Trent Shelton
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first heard Nov 2024
last heard 28 Jul
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And my dad said, Trent, if you don't speak your peace, how can you protect your peace? And I said, wow, you're right. And so I've chose to be at peace with myself. And no matter what comes with that, sometimes it comes with, you know, worry and guilt because not to kind of fast forward, but the main principle in the book or number one is set boundaries.
And a lot of us don't set boundaries because of two reasons. We worry. or we have guilt. We worry what people are gonna say, we worry about the rebuttal, or we have guilt that I'm leaving this person behind, or I should always be there for them. So we don't set boundaries.
But I like to always say, and this changed my life when it came to protecting my pieces, boundaries aren't walls, boundaries are bridges. Most people think boundaries are this wall that keeps things out. No, boundaries are there to let the right things in. And so, yes, I've had to set boundaries. They only become walls when somebody disrespects it over and over and over again.
Then that boundary becomes a wall. I can't allow you access in my life or I can't be around this environment because it's toxic. So I would ask the person that's listening to this is like, if you want peace in your life or what you need in your life, what boundary do you need to set? What bridge do you need to set that's going to lead you to what you need?
And so that's helped me so much by saying one of my main principles is I am going to keep peace in my life and I'm not gonna start a war within myself. And I'm not gonna worry about who feels a certain way. I'm not gonna worry about the private conversation and that'll become public information and the talks behind the backs and oh, Trent's like this.
And I'm not worried about that no more because I'm choosing to keep my peace because a life without peace is nothing. And so, yeah, I wanted to share that because I know a lot of people are starting wars within themselves.
They're carrying these internal battles and wars and they're driving themselves crazy, stressed out, burnt out, depression, because they won't say their peace or they won't set that boundary.
Absolutely. I think a lot of people are afraid, Jamie, to let people down.
Well, you should be afraid to let the most important person down in your life is yourself. And so every time you are choosing not to set a boundary or not to say no, or even say yes on the flip side, you might need to say yes to something else. And you're so afraid to let people down, you're letting yourself down. Yeah.
over and over and you get to that point where that war inside you becomes stress, you become disconnected, you become, you lose the vibrancy of life. And it's like, man, and I'm gonna say this, and this is kind of a curve ball, but I talked about this the other day on my social media, because the thing that I see too with social, it's not even like the people around you.
Like some of us, we don't wanna let down strangers on the internet. And I literally posted this the other day. I said, the people that you don't want to let down, the people you're trying to smile for the camera, die behind the scenes or whatever it is, those people will not be at your funeral. And losing mom, like I got to see the people that she kept wars for wasn't there. Yeah.
Wasn't bringing flowers to her grave. So I'm like, okay, like I get it now. And I'm not saying everybody who you're starting a war with in yourself is not going to support you or be there for you. But I saw that. And so I'm like, I'm not living for to please. I call in the book professional people pleasers. That's what we are. Triple P's. We want to please.
And a lot of pleasing comes from the desire. We put our worth in being needed so much. And we don't feel like we're pleasing people. Oh, I'm not needed. So if I'm not needed, I don't have value. And so for me, I've learned how to start with myself. And I'm not trying to make this a selfish thing, but if I'm not giving myself what I need, how can I be the greatest self for those that need me to be?
How can I be the greatest self for my kids, for my wife, for my community? So I want to tell everybody, listen to this, man. Stop losing yourself trying to please strangers on the internet. trying to please people who literally are going to just jump on the next bandwagon. We've seen this over and over.
Once you stop being hot, once you stop giving them what they need, they're going to go to the next thing. And so I realized that from football, I've seen it. So when I got into this space, I'm like, I appreciate the love, but I know the love is circumstantial. Once I stop giving you what I need and I get it, it's the world, you're going to move on to the next thing.
So you think I'm going to start a war within myself and lose myself for that? No. I'm okay with losing followers. I'm okay with people saying, oh, I don't feel, I'm okay with that. My worth is not in people's opinions. I was given worth at birth just like you by God. So I'm worthy. Pun intended.
I'm worthy because of how God created me and sees me, not how this world views me, not by a blue check mark, not by 16 million people following me online. I was already worthy before birth, just like you. God set you apart. It's in scripture. So that's where I've gotten my confidence from in my life to no longer start a war within myself. It's not worth it.
I was given worth at my birth. I was given worth at my birth.
Absolutely. Yeah, I look back on my life and I realize, my past through football really was to prepare me for this and show me like what's really real. You know, I always say this and it seems kind of harsh. I would say real situations expose fake things in your life or people in your life.
And so I was able to see, oh, the majority of people in this world, and this is just us in general, but the majority of people in this world sometimes only loves you because of what's around you. Do you love me for me? And if I don't have a consensus yes, then I put you in the place where I feel like you need to be in my life.
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