Vanessa Marin

You know, I got it locked down.

I don't have to work at this anymore.

Right.

But I think it's very, very attractive for people to see their partner still making that effort.

And I think that's what real intimacy is in a long-term relationship.

Like, I love with Xander, I love that I can have those days where, hey, I'm not feeling my hottest.

I can put on my sweats.

I can wear your T-shirt.

I can have my hair just in a messy bun.

And he still thinks I'm attractive and I feel safe and I feel comfortable around him.

And I'm still, you know, the majority of the time...

making an effort to take care of myself, to look good for him, to be the kind of person that he's gonna be proud to have on his arm.

It's like both, being able to have both, I think is really nice.

Yeah.

How do you do it?

You go right in with you're looking like a real slob lately.

Let's clean this up.

We obviously have to have to approach this one sensitively because truly what's happening in a lot of these cases is there's something deeper going on with that person.

None of us consciously wakes up and says, you know what?

I want to look like a slob today.