Vanessa Marin

We used to make out a lot more, like a lot longer.

Or it could be, we used to do this one position.

I don't know why we stopped doing that.

It was such a great position, but we just haven't done it in forever.

Or we used to have sex on the couch instead of in the bed every single time.

So just bring back something that you used to do.

You'll have the confidence of knowing we've done this before, we enjoyed it, but you'll still get those benefits of trying something new.

And then from there, if you want to try things that you've never tried before, that's totally great, but you don't have to do that.

It's really just making sure to keep cycling in those things that you actually do enjoy.

No, I just call them, yeah, couples.

Yeah.

I have a little trick that I call the dream scheme.

Tell your partner you had a dream about it.

It doesn't have to be true.

It's a little tiny lie, which I don't normally advocate for, but if it gets you talking about sex, I'll be for it.

So just tell your partner, you know what?

I had a dream last night that we were doing XYZ, and I just can't get that out of my mind now.

It was very sexy in the dream.

That's also a great way to introduce something brand new because it gives you a chance to gauge your partner's reaction.

You can say something like, you know, I...