Vanessa Marin

Is he having a good time?

Is he bored?

Women are desperate for men to make more noise during sex.

And they think it's really sexy too.

Like they want to hear your, I think in the same, you know, men love hearing women's noises, right?

Am I right?

We want to hear your noises too.

Yeah.

Okay, so I started telling you there's no one magic number that every couple should be having.

And if we're just trying to hit a quota, it's probably not gonna be very good sex.

But that being said, I do think that if you are asking yourself, how much sex should we be having?

Are we having enough?

Likely the answer is you should be having more sex.

I do think that people benefit the more sex that we have, the more connected we feel.

I think this is another way that we downplay sex.

Like nobody would ever say, oh, you guys want to go on more date nights?

you guys want to spend more quality time together?

We look at it as, oh yeah, the more we do that, the more quality time we spend together, the more nice stuff we do together, the better.

And I do think the same is true to an extent when it comes to sex.

But in particular, what I want people to get used to is this idea that we have to be intentional about making the time, space, and energy for sex.