Xander Marin
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2,548 appearances
9 recordings
1 series
first heard Jul 2026
last heard 10 Sep
Xander Marin’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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yourself in the foot by waiting because that is just you're you're guaranteeing that w a major blockage that impacts everyone, tiredness, is gonna be present.
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Mm-hmm.
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I just want you to want it when I want it.
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Yeah, so I think that if you are listening to this podcast and you, as of right now in your relationship, are identifying as a higher desire partner, usually, I'm not saying a hundred percent of the time, but usually that person that is a higher desire partner likely has more of a brain first desire type.
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They are a bit more spontaneous when it comes to when the idea of sex sounds.
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Because relative to that, if your partner is a body first desire type, they need to get turned on in their body before the idea of sex sounds good.
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You will often perceive there to be a difference in sex drive, even though we would argue very often there is not actually a difference.
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The real difference is just you have different types and you are approaching them from a spontaneous point of view.
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And from a spontaneous point of view, a body-first desire type is not likely ever going to be turned on in that moment.
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And so I think that.
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the importance of understanding yourself rather than fixating on your partner.
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If you would just be more open when I'm open, if you would just be more spontaneously turned on, it's understanding spontaneous desire is not the only way to feel desire.
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In fact, I would argue that body, body-driven desire is actually a more universal way that we feel turned on.
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Because at the end of the day, if you sit somebody down, some someone that you trust and it's a safe situation, and you start stimulating their genitals.
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They are almost certainly going to get turned on.
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Eventually.
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Right?
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So the re the reality is that we all respond to physical, to body first stimulation.
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And I think that when we are a brain first type, we often forget that.
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We forget that whole I know that the idea it sounds so sexy and enticing to just have my partner come out of nowhere and be like, oh, take me right now.
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