Xander Marin
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2,548 appearances
9 recordings
1 series
first heard Jul 2026
last heard 10 Sep
Xander Marin’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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recordings per month · last 12 monthsRecordings per month over the last 12 months — 9 in all, peaking in Aug 2026 with 4.
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But the reality is.
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is if we take five minutes to just get things started in a moment where you weren't otherwise thinking about it, that you would almost certainly start to be turned on.
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And once you're turned on, does it really matter?
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How you got turned on in the first place.
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Like once you're there, most people would be like, like, are you really being like, okay, I'm turned on now, but this happened in a really unideal way.
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And I would rather s wrap this up right now.
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I'd rather stop this and not go through with it because it didn't happen in the spontaneous way I wanted.
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No, like nobody, we've never heard from anybody that is like, oh, my partner keeps getting me physically turned on.
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But they're not doing it in moments that really resonate with me.
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And so I keep telling them to stop.
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We don't ever hear that.
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So I think it's just a great reminder of like, yeah, of course if you are spontaneous, you might want some spontaneous experiences sometimes, but that does not mean that all of them need to.
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yeah.
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I mean that at the end of the day, that this is what it's all about, right?
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But the the reality because of the way that we've all been socialized and the way that most of us
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hesitate to jump in to be like, oh yeah, of course no one ever taught me I and I now that I'm 40 or 30 or whatever, oh my God, I just realized nobody ever taught me how to do this and we should take a close look at this.
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Like most people are not just waking up without realization, right?
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We're waking up with all the socialization and the shame and the hesitance that has, you know, has been instilled in us from a very young, from a prepubescent age.
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Um, all the way through puberty, all the way through our young adulthood and into adulthood, right?
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So as a result of that, I know that most people would prefer, God, it would be so nice if we could just both get on the same page and do this at the same time.
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