Xander Marin
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2,548 appearances
9 recordings
1 series
first heard Jul 2026
last heard 10 Sep
Xander Marin’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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I don't think it's necessarily like I am the only reason that this is happening.
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I get that she was mean.
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Okay, here's what I don't know, 'cause because you know, there there's nothing about this in the response that the person gave.
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So I think the typical pattern when this happens is that
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One person stops initiating because the other person is mean to them, is always saying no, is, you know, is doing something that doesn't feel good.
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But it's not that they just stop, it's that typically the person stops initiating without saying anything to the other person.
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It's more of a it's it's sort of like a test.
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Oh, okay, well, she's gonna be mean to me.
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I'm just gonna stop and see what she thinks about that.
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But I think if this is the situation that it typically is where it's sort of like he stops because he's like, Oh, well, she's never gonna say yeah, so let's let's wait, let's just stop initiating, wait and see how long.
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Yeah.
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I think that that is I I don't know if it's necessarily like an equal role, but you are playing a role.
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You're you're giving an unspoken test to your partner to see how long it's gonna be before they notice.
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And so you're actually both both of you are doing something kind of mean and underhanded.
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something sexier.
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I think another thing this is only if she is open to it, is what you could say is, you know, you know, in this in this first week that you are going to dabble your toes into initiation.
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Like
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Dip your toes.
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Oh, yeah, yeah.
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Dip your toes into
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