Xander Marin

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2,897 appearances 10 recordings 1 series first heard Jul 2026 last heard 4d ago

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Pillow Talks · E276: How Do You Turn Your Partner On? (When You've Been Together For Years) · 3 Sep 2026 podcast

So if that is your partner, that is probably a good sign that you could say or do close to anything sexual at almost any time, and it would be have a higher likelihood of turning them on. podcast-host

They are less likely to be like, oh no, this is not the time or the place. podcast-host

In fact, they might actually respond better to a more random kind. podcast-host

Of initiation or text message or comment. podcast-host

So if you're thinking, oh, how do I turn my partner on more? podcast-host

If you are not this type, you're probably thinking, oh, well, it has to be this very specific way at a very specific time. podcast-host

And if this is your partner, maybe you should be like, hold on. podcast-host

There don't need to be any rules about this, like literally any time. podcast-host

And probably the most random time might be the most meaningful. podcast-host

Yeah, because I think a lot of people, like Vanessa said, are hear this brain and physical desire type are like, oh well that that sounds like the ideal. podcast-host

I will say that one of the biggest challenges, if you are this desire type, is it people of that type often podcast-host

Will push back against regular intimacy, against perceived like the same type of thing over and over. podcast-host

Like they will feel like, oh, well, I want it to come out of nowhere. podcast-host

I want my partner to always be approaching me totally randomly and taking me by surprise and being open to having sex whenever I do, in very random and often inopportune moments. podcast-host

So that can, while it can feel fun to like, oh yeah, I want to be able to be thinking about it all the time and be open to it all the time. podcast-host

The the dark side of this side is that often, even though someone might be having very regular and consistent sex, and someone of this type can feel like, oh well, but I just I want it to happen even more spontaneously. podcast-host

And that ends up not being very practical often. podcast-host

And so there there can end up being a lot of a lot of worrying and anxiety and complaining about what otherwise seems like a very good sex life and that can create its own challenges. podcast-host

Yeah, so I I thought something was wrong with me for so long. podcast-host

Like I thought that I must have responsive desire or I'm not like I never think about it spontaneously because I don't respond or I I didn't used to respond super well to spontaneous initiation, which when Vanessa initiated, often it would be very spontaneous. podcast-host

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