Xander Marin

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2,897 appearances 10 recordings 1 series first heard Jul 2026 last heard 6d ago

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Pillow Talks · E276: How Do You Turn Your Partner On? (When You've Been Together For Years) · 3 Sep 2026 podcast

If you would just be more open when I'm open, if you would just be more spontaneously turned on, it's understanding spontaneous desire is not the only way to feel desire. podcast-host

In fact, I would argue that body, body-driven desire is actually a more universal way that we feel turned on. podcast-host

Because at the end of the day, if you sit somebody down, some someone that you trust and it's a safe situation, and you start stimulating their genitals. podcast-host

They are almost certainly going to get turned on. podcast-host

Eventually. podcast-host

Right? podcast-host

So the re the reality is that we all respond to physical, to body first stimulation. podcast-host

And I think that when we are a brain first type, we often forget that. podcast-host

We forget that whole I know that the idea it sounds so sexy and enticing to just have my partner come out of nowhere and be like, oh, take me right now. podcast-host

But the reality is. podcast-host

is if we take five minutes to just get things started in a moment where you weren't otherwise thinking about it, that you would almost certainly start to be turned on. podcast-host

And once you're turned on, does it really matter? podcast-host

How you got turned on in the first place. podcast-host

Like once you're there, most people would be like, like, are you really being like, okay, I'm turned on now, but this happened in a really unideal way. podcast-host

And I would rather s wrap this up right now. podcast-host

I'd rather stop this and not go through with it because it didn't happen in the spontaneous way I wanted. podcast-host

No, like nobody, we've never heard from anybody that is like, oh, my partner keeps getting me physically turned on. podcast-host

But they're not doing it in moments that really resonate with me. podcast-host

And so I keep telling them to stop. podcast-host

We don't ever hear that. podcast-host

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