Xander Marin

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2,897 appearances 10 recordings 1 series first heard Jul 2026 last heard 17 Sep

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Pillow Talks · E275: Reasonable or Ridiculous? Sex Quotas, Oral Every Time, and Dirty Talk Dealbreakers · 27 Aug 2026 podcast

to be like, hey, my me being a dick or a good person is not tied one to one podcast-host

whether my partner says yes. podcast-host

And I understand that there's a history in why you have that association, but that is something that we can't just go, Oh, you you hurt me in this way and now I always will have this connection. podcast-host

That's not gonna work. podcast-host

So that is one option. podcast-host

I also just want to clarify the reason why I was really kind of nitpicking on like, hey, I this can't all be her fault, is that I do think that podcast-host

Yeah, we in in relationships we often we sometimes do shitty things to each other, but we can't podcast-host

w we can't set up a dynamic where it's like, hey, you did X, Y, and Z to me. podcast-host

this one time or during this period of time and that really hurt. podcast-host

Therefore I am permanently excused from doing ABC. podcast-host

That's that is not gonna be successful in a relationship. podcast-host

And I think that that's sort of a reason why it's not really healthy to think about podcast-host

relationship conflict or or damage as like all one person or all another person. podcast-host

It's like we all have some role to play in things, even if the role that the other person plays is really negligible. podcast-host

I do think though that's like a powerful way to to help us start to understand like, oh okay, we can't set up this thing where it's like, oh well you hurt me. podcast-host

So therefore I will never do blah blah blah again. podcast-host

Like 'cause that's just gonna that's just podcast-host

gonna create problems and it's gonna create an imbalanced power dynamic too that is going to cause you problems in conflict. podcast-host

And I don't think that's what anybody wants. podcast-host

So that's that's kind of why I was uh I was I was talking about that. podcast-host

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