Xander Marin

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2,897 appearances 10 recordings 1 series first heard Jul 2026 last heard 17 Sep

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Pillow Talks · E276: How Do You Turn Your Partner On? (When You've Been Together For Years) · 3 Sep 2026 podcast

This is spontaneous and responsive sex drive. podcast-host

So basically, do you feel the desire for sex in your brain spontaneously? podcast-host

Or do you have more of a physical desire type? podcast-host

You want to f you need to feel turned on in your body before your brain goes, oh hell yeah, I want that. podcast-host

So if you find yourself throughout the day randomly thinking about sex, fantasizing about sex, wanting to have sex at sometimes seemingly random and maybe inopportune moments, then you are probably a brain. podcast-host

Rain first desire type. podcast-host

Now, if you don't typically find yourself thinking about sex very often, but once you get into the middle of having sex, all of a sudden you're like, oh my God, this is awesome. podcast-host

Why don't I want this more? podcast-host

Then you are probably a physical first desire type. podcast-host

So that means that you need a little bit of touch, something to physically ground you and start getting the process going before your brain catches up. podcast-host

So that's the how you feel desire. podcast-host

Then there is the when you feel desire or when you want it. podcast-host

And this has to do with, again, we tend to break down into these two categories. podcast-host

So we either want to have sex in order to feel emotionally connected with our partner, or we want to feel a certain level. podcast-host

Of emotional connection before we feel open to having sex. podcast-host

So a very simple question to ask yourself is when things feel not bad between the two of you, but when things feel a little rocky or uncertain, maybe you've had a minor argument recently and it hasn't been fully resolved. podcast-host

If I were to say, how do you feel about having sex with your partner right now? podcast-host

If you are, if you think, oh God, yeah, if we could just have sex, then everything would feel better. podcast-host

Then you are probably a physical desire type. podcast-host

So you want to have physical connection in order to feel more emotional connection. podcast-host

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