For women with ADHD, anger doesn’t always come out as yelling. It often hides in plain sight. Rage leaks out through tears, silence, shutdowns, guilt, or even endless “rage cleaning.” In this episode of Angry on the Inside, Jess and Jeannine break down why so many late-diagnosed women were taught that anger is unsafe, how that message turns rage inward, and the toll it takes on our bodies and relationships. They call out the lies behind “good girls don’t get mad,” unpack the shame cycle, and dig into the burnout, exhaustion, and physical symptoms that follow when anger gets buried instead of expressed. You’ll hear real talk about the ways ADHD rage shows up crying in fury, shutting down mid-argument, replaying fights for days in our minds, or feeling that buzzing intensity under your skin. Most importantly, Jess and Jeannine share how to start reframing anger as information, finding outlets that actually release it, and modeling healthier expressions of rage for the next generation of ADHD women. This isn’t about silencing anger, it’s about finally letting it breathe.

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