#147: Why Your Brain Fights Back When You Try to Change

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The TalkDoc & Co. discuss how people use frames to interpret experiences and how reframing ideally in real time can change self-talk, perception, and fear responses. A story about cleaners mistakenly cleaning a friend’s house illustrates how fixed interpretations resist contradictory information. The hosts connect reframing to brain research suggesting it can repress subcortical fear responses, and to Sharot’s optimism bias findings that optimistic reframes normalize brain functioning. Using examples like imposter syndrome about pursuing a PhD, business risk, tests, breakups, and childbirth, they contrast pessimistic explanatory styles (permanent, pervasive, personal) with optimistic ones (temporary, specific). Drawing on Seligman and Carol Dweck, they explain fixed v.s growth mindsets, emphasize “data/feedback not definition,” and review studies showing effort-based praise increases challenge-seeking and persistence while intelligence-based praise increases avoidance and discouragement. Music by epidemic sound. SHOW NOTES: Experts : Dr. Martin Seligman and Dr. Carol Dweck Links: https://positivepsychology.com/learned-optimism/ https://ctl.stanford.edu/students/growth-mindset

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