In this episode of Becoming, Nqobile and Mawanda Maphumulo unpack the complex idea of changing people in relationships. Can you actually change someone—or are you just avoiding your own internal work?The difference between inspiring and manipulating someoneHow trauma responses influence our relationshipsWhy self-change should come before expecting change from othersMindfulness Journal: https://nqobilem.com/products/becoming-mindfulness-journalFollow Mawanda MaphumuloInstagram : www.instagram.com/officialmawanda_mFollow Nqobile MapsInstagram : www.instagram.com/nqobileh.m00:00 – Why people feel the need to change others01:15 – Trauma responses disguised as help02:00 – Inspiration vs manipulation in relationships03:20 – Change happens within, not through force04:43 – How projection shows up in our closest relationships06:00 – Influence as a byproduct of shared values07:38 – Ego and the illusion of control09:16 – Repeating abusive cycles to fix the past10:15 – Sustainable change vs forced compliance#BecomingByNqobileh # Mentalhealth#CanYouChangeSomeone

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