BeThatHealingGirl Podcast

3 Anxious Attachment Habits That Ruin Your Relationships Over Time

30 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode we’re breaking down the 3 most common (but sneaky) anxious attachment habits that slowly destroy connection over time... even in lov...

The Fastest Way To Calm An Overthinking Spiral

23 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If your thoughts are spiraling… If you’re checking your phone again… If your brain won’t slow down and it feels like your nervous system is in...

How To Stay Grounded When Their Mood or Distance Triggers Your Anxiety

16 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode I’m breaking down why your nervous system reacts so intensely to your partner’s mood, distance, or emotional shifts... and mo...

Why Choosing Yourself Makes Your Relationship Feel More Safe

09 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

🦋 Ready for the deeper work?  🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE COD...

What Happens When You Keep Saying "I'm Fine" When You're Really Not

02 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

You say “I’m fine”… But your stomach’s in knots. Your voice is quieter than usual. You’re spinning in your head while trying to act chill ...

How We Talked through Something Scary without Pushing Each Other Away

25 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We’ve always agreed we didn’t want kids.
But suddenly, with a hysterectomy on the table…
I felt wobbly.
And there was this tiny part of me...

Why Stillness Feels Unsafe When You Have Relationship Anxiety

18 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This week, we’re diving deep into a topic I know hits home for so many high-achieving, anxious girlies: why stillness can feel so unsafe when you ha...

How To Stop Over Giving And Still Feel Like A Priority

11 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If you're constantly planning, smoothing things over, doing the most in your relationship while low-key wondering “Why can’t they just do more??”...

How to Feel Like a Priority Without Chasing or Being Needy

04 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episoe we’re talking about how to feel like a priority in your relationship... without slipping into overthinking, over‑analyzing every te...

How I Accidentally Rewired My Anxious Attachment Into a Secure One

28 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

You're not needy. You're just healing! In this episode, I’m sharing how I accidentally rewired my anxious attachment into a secure one...without for...

How Being ‘Chill’ Can Push a Safe Partner Away (When You Have Relationship Anxiety)

21 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Welcome back BBs! In this episode, we’re diving deep into a pattern I see all the time: acting “chill” when inside, you're spiraling. You know t...

3 Mistakes You're Making That Make You Second Guess a Secure Relationship

14 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If you're in a healthy relationship but your brain won't stop spiraling... this episode is going to hit home. In this week’s episode I’m breaking ...

What Happens When You Confuse Your Anxiety For Intuition

07 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This week we’re unpacking the real reason your brain confuses anxiety for intuition (and how to stop self‑sabotaging a healthy relationship!) If y...

Why You Keep Mistaking Anxiety for Intuition in Your Relationship

30 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode we’re unpacking one of the most confusing (and exhausting) dynamics in anxious relationships ➡️ Anxiety vs. Intuition. And why y...

The Reason You Spiral Even When Nothing’s Wrong in Your Relationship

23 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

You’re Not Overreacting - You’re Dysregulated (Here’s Why It Feels Like Everything’s Falling Apart When It’s Actually Fine) You’re not cra...

You're self aware but still in the overthinking spiral?

16 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

You’ve read the books, saved the Instagram carousels, diagnosed your attachment style (hi anxious girlies 👋), and can spot a spiral from a mile a...

When Overthinking Is Your Relationship Coping Mechanism (and why it’s not a Solution)

09 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Do you go to overthinking the second the vibes are off? Scroll TikTok for answers before the text even delivers? Google “anxious attachment + textin...

Why You Keep Spiraling Even When You Know Better

02 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

✨ You’ve read the books. Listened to the podcasts. You could give a TED Talk on attachment styles. So why are you still spiraling?! In this episod...

Is THIS The Most Toxic Habit of Anxious Attachment?

26 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

✨ Ever feel like your brain just won’t shut off... even when everything’s actually fine in your relationship? You’re spiraling, checking for s...

3 Things I Learned to Finally Stop Overthinking (after nearly 💩ing in a tent!)

19 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

After six weeks of serious inner work (including a spiritual cleanse and a solo wilderness retreat where I literally faced my fear of abandonment head...

How to Get Out of the Overthinking Loop for Good

12 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If you spiral when your partner seems distant… If your brain won’t stop running “what did I do wrong?” loops… If you’re smart, successful,...

What I’m Still Healing (Even as a Relationship Coach)

05 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Ever feel like you're doing all the inner work, listening to every podcast, journaling your heart out and still fall back into the same anxious spiral...

The Hidden Damage Overthinking Does to Your Relationship

29 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If You Overthink Every Text Message… This Episode Is For You! You’re crushing it at work, you're a boss in life, but when it comes to your relatio...

From Anxious to Secure: Client Transformation with Karuna!

22 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this powerful episode, I sit down with my client Karuna - science writer, high achiever, and living proof that secure attachment is possible! We’...

The Truth About Feeling Like You’re “Too Much” in Your Relationship

15 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Ever feel like you're just too much in your relationship? 😵‍💫 Like your emotions are too messy, too needy, or too intense so you try to keep t...

3 Reasons Why Your Post-vacation Relationship Anxiety is Happening (again and again)

08 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

You had an amazing weekend... the vibes were vibing, the cuddles were elite, and the connection felt so good. Then you got home, sat on the couch, and...

What a Secure Relationship Actually Looks Like (even if it feels weird)

01 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If slow feels boring, if calm feels confusing, and if your nervous system is low-key addicted to chaos.... this one’s for you. This week, we’re di...

Anxious attached with an Avoidant - Becoming Secure Together (Special Anniversary Episode!)

24 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

It’s our 6-year wedding anniversary (!!) and today I brought my husband Craig on the podcast for the realest conversation about love, growth, and th...

Why You Think Its Your Fault in the Relationship (even when its not)

17 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Still Needing Constant Reassurance in Your Relationship? Here’s Why 👀 . This episode is for the anxious girlies who look like they have it all to...

How To Stop Needing Constant Reassurance

10 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This episode is for the anxious girlies who look like they have it all together (you’ve got degrees, deadlines, and the job)… but on the inside, y...

3 Reasons Why Your Anxious Attachment Isn't Healing

03 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We’re unpacking the 3 big reasons your anxious attachment isn’t healing, even if you’re doing everything “right.” Spoiler: it’s not about ...

How She Went From Overthinking Everything to Feeling Secure in Love

28 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Ever wonder what it actually looks like to go from anxious, overthinking, “I’m probably the problem” energy… to grounded, confident, and final...

5-Minute Pep Talk: For When Your Relationship Overthinking Kicks In

20 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Welcome back to the Be That Healing Girl podcast! If your mind is spiraling, your stomach’s in knots, and you’ve refreshed your texts 18 times in ...

Reminders For When You Have Your Anxious Attachment Triggered

13 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Ever find yourself refreshing your texts like your life depends on it? Or spending 10 hours doing two hours of work because your brain won’t stop ob...

How To Stop Self-Silencing and Express Your Feelings (without the spiral)

07 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Ever held it in like a champ… until you exploded over something small (but actually not small at all)? 🙃 You didn’t want to ruin the vibe. It w...

Why You Keep Overexplaining (and Still Feel Misunderstood)

29 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Why do we keep explaining... and explaining... and explaining — and still walk away feeling misunderstood (and kind of embarrassed)? 😵‍💫 In ...

How to build self-trust (after a lifetime of self-abandonment)

22 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

You’re the go-to girl at work, the one who gets it DONE… but when it comes to your relationship? Cue the overthinking, second-guessing, and consta...

Am I Triggered or Am I Right? How to Tell the difference!

15 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Are you overthinking every convo, second-guessing yourself constantly, and wondering... “Am I triggered or am I actually right?” 😅 Welcome to t...

The Real Reason You Don’t Feel Secure in a Good Relationship

08 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This week, we're getting real about the messy middle — where you logically know you’re in a good relationship but emotionally still feel anxious A...

The Instant Fix for Anxious Attachment Triggers

01 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Welcome to the episode every anxious attachment girlie needs in her back pocket. If you spiral when they don’t text back, replay convos 14 times in ...

Spot Hyper-Independence Triggers in Your Relationship

25 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Let’s be real: you’re the hyper-independent girlie who gets ish DONE. You’ve got the degree, the business, the receipts. But when it comes to re...

Mistakes in Treating Anxious Attachment Triggers

18 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I’m breaking down the biggest mistakes I see when people try to “fix” their anxious attachment triggers—and why those habits ...

Anxiously Attached to ENGAGED?!

11 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Imagine going from spiraling over “Do they really like me?” to casually ring shopping like it’s no big deal. 🤯 That’s exactly what’s ...

When You Want More Effort From Your Partner

04 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Feel like you're the one keeping the relationship alive? 😩 You’re planning the dates, remembering the little things, prioritizing them… and the...

When It Feels Like You're Doing All the Work in Your Relationship

25 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

STOP DOING ALL THE WORK IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP 😤 (Why You’re Exhausted & How to Fix It) Ever feel like you’re carrying the whole damn relatio...

Stopping the Systemic Self Sabotage & Relationship Anxiety

19 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This week I’m joined by Dr. Jeanine Staples-Dixon, a literal genius, tenured professor at Penn State, and someone who knows why you keep self-sabota...

How to Feel Secure in Your Anxious with an Avoidant Relationship

11 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

🚨 Reality check for my high-achieving, anxious girlies in relationships with an avoidant partner… 🚨 Valentine’s Day can be a lot—especiall...

3 Signs Your Anxious and Avoidant Relationship Will Work

04 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If you’re anxiously attached and dating an avoidant, you already know this relationship is basically an extreme sport. One minute, you’re feeling ...

Do you keep pushing a good one away or are you attracting emotionally unavailable people?

28 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Okay, real talk—are you actually pushing away someone great, or do you just keep attracting emotionally unavailable people? Because SAME. Been there...

Season 2! Understanding Push-Pull Relationship Dynamics

21 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

✨ Hey girlies, welcome to SEASON 2 of the BeThatHealingGirl Podcast! ✨ We’re leveling up big time—new vibes, new content, and SO many juicy co...

Stop Anxious Attachment to Live Your Best Life

08 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

✨ It’s 2025 and we’re not carrying anxious attachment into this new era okay? Feeling stuck in the what ifs and putting your life on hold for so...

Why Acting "Unbothered" Isn't Working With Anxious Attachment

24 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I’m breaking down why pretending you’re totally fine when you’re actually spiraling inside is keeping you stuck. 🚨Spoiler Ale...

Anxious Meets Avoidant: How We Overcame the Fear Cycle in Our Relationship (Part 2 with Craig!)

17 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

💖 This is Part 2 of my special series with none other than my husband, Craig! In this episode, we’re diving deep into the patterns that defined t...

Bday Special! Craig Gets his Podcast Cherry Popped [Part 1]

10 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

🚨 SPECIAL EPISODE ALERT! 🚨 This week on BeThatHealingGirl, I’m joined by none other than… my husband, Craig! 💍✨ We’re pulling back th...

Why the Reassurance Isn't Working

03 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

So you asked for the reassurance. You got it. And... you’re still spiraling. WTF, right? 🤯 This week, we’re getting into why that little “eve...

The Do's and Don'ts to Stop Overthinking

27 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Ever sent a 3-page text knowing you shouldn’t? Or started a fight just because you couldn’t scratch that itch? Yep, we’re going there. If overth...

Staying Connected During Distant Moments

21 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Does a little distance feel like a red alert to you? Whether it's a delayed text, a faraway look, or physical distance (hello, long-distance relations...

Healing Anxious Attachment: Client Transformation with Athena

12 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this very special episode, we’re welcoming our first guest ever to the podcast, and I couldn’t be more excited! Today, I’m joined by Athena, ...

How to Heal the Root of Anxious Attachment

05 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This week, we’re diving deep into a HUGE topic—how to heal the root of anxious attachment. If you’ve been doing all the things—therapy, hot gi...

Healing Your Fear of Abandonment

30 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

If you’re constantly scanning for signs that someone’s about to up and leave, even when there’s no reason to worry, this episode is for you. We’...

Micro-habits to Help You Heal Your Anxious Attachment FASTER

22 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

If you’re a girlie who’s out here doing ALL the things—hot girl walks, therapy, reading every self-help book—yet still find yourself obsessing...

Breaking the Self-Doubt Cycle in Relationship

15 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Welcome back, bb! In today’s episode we are diving deep into the juicy topic of self-doubt in your relationship. I’m calling out all the messy pat...

Feeling Secure When you're apart

08 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We’re diving deep into something every anxious attachment babe knows all too well: feeling secure when you're apart. Whether you’re long-distance,...

Healing Anxious Attachment Triggers

01 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We’re diving headfirst into something a lot of you have been DM-ing me about: external validation and how it's triggering your anxious attachment. I...

Seeking Constant Reassurance (and what it says to your partner)

24 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

You know that feeling when your partner says “I love you,” and you're like, “Yeah, but tell me again”? If that’s you, this episode is for YO...

How To Stop Overthinking When the Vacation Ends

17 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today's episode is all about how to stop overthinking when the vacation ends. You know that moment when the trip wraps up and your brain goes into ove...

Feeling Emotionally Distant in Your Relationship

10 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We’re diving into a topic so many of us know all too well—feeling emotionally distant in your relationship. Whether you’re dating someone who se...

Overanalyzing In Your Relationship

03 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Ever wonder why you can’t stop picking apart every text or replaying that one convo in your head? In this episode, I’m breaking down the differenc...

Answering Your Biggest Relationship Questions

27 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

I’m SO excited for this episode! 🌟 Seriously, I've been dreaming of doing this kind of format for ages, and I finally found the perfect way to co...

Hyper Independence & Relationship Anxiety

20 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I’m breaking down the messy interplay between being hyper-independent and feeling anxious in relationships. We’ll talk about why ...

Relationship Boundaries & Expectations

13 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we’re diving deep into the juicy world of relationship boundaries and expectations. This topic is a total game-changer because let’s be real...

Needing Constant Reassurance in Relationship

06 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we’re getting into a juicy topic that we all know too well—needing constant reassurance in our relationships. If you’ve ever found yourse...

The Overthinking in Relationship Fix

30 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Hey babes! This week, we’re diving deep into how to fix overthinking in relationships. It's a special episode because my husband and I are celebrati...

The Most Important Focus for Different Attachment Styles

23 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

  Join our free community for exclusive courses, live trainings, and a squad of like-minded women supporting each other through this wild ride.  JOI...

Communication That is Hurting Your Attachment Style

16 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Hey Girlies, this week we’re diving deep into the communication habits that are hurting your attachment style. If you’re an anxious girly who gets...

What To Do When Your Anxious Attachment is Triggered

09 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In Today's episode we're hitting "Trigger City" and talking about how to handle it when your anxious attachment goes haywire. We're diving deep into o...

Sneaky Overthinking Triggers

02 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Hey Girlies! This week, we're tackling one of the sneakiest triggers for overthinking in relationships: LONELINESS. If you're an anxious girly constan...

Stop Overthinking Your Relationship (what you need to know!)

25 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today’s episode is ALL about stopping that pesky overthinking in your relationships. We'll tackle how to tell if you’re spiraling or actually thin...

How You're Ruining a Good Relationship with Self Sabotage

18 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This week's episode is all about self-sabotage. Yep, been there, sabotaged that—especially with those sweet, secure types who just wanted to love us...

Healing Anxious Attachment & The Important First Step

11 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Hey Girlies! Today, we're diving deep into healing anxious attachment. In this episode, I’m unpacking my journey, sharing those “aha” moments th...

Attachment Theory Basics

04 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Welcome back girlies! This episode is all about Attachment Theory basics. I’m breaking down everything you need to know and tips for navigating and ...

Anxious and Avoidant Style of Fighting

31 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

If you find yourself picking little fights, having the same argument over and over, or maybe it's like clockwork where every two or three weeks there'...

Relationship Intuition - What is Blocking Yours?

23 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Hey girlies, welcome back! Today we're diving deep into relationship intuition and how you might be blocking yours. First, operating from a place of “...

Is it Intuition or Are You Overthinking In Your Relationship

14 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever found yourself wondering if that nagging feeling in your gut is real intuition or just another anxiety spiral? In this episode we're sor...

How to heal your anxious attachment and enter your soft girl era

09 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

If you grew up in a home where the default was drama, you might feel like it’s hardwired into your soul to snap back. Healing your anxious attachmen...

Communicating Your Needs & Common Mistakes

01 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we're unpacking all things miscommunication and diving into the do's and don'ts of expressing your needs without turning it into a full-blown d...

Healing Your Anxious Attachment - Ways You're Hurting Your Healing Journey

24 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This episode is all about turning relationship information overload into actual healing. We're cutting through the noise and getting down to the nitty...

Meditation for Healing Relationships

16 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

If you told me six years ago I'd be a meditation queen, I would’ve LOL’d so hard! I was too booked and busy, convinced that meditation just wasn’...

How To Stop Overthinking Relationships

09 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This week we're diving into a topic that I know way too well, and I bet you do too: overthinking in relationships. You know the drill - analyzing text...

A Sneaky & Early Sign of Anxious Attachment

02 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Hey Girlies! This week we're diving deep into the world of anxious attachment... we're uncovering those sneaky, early signs you've probably been overl...

How to “cope” with Relationship Anxiety

26 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

If you've ever found yourself overanalyzing every text, fretting over their social media activity, or just feeling that constant worry about your rela...

What To Do if They Are Not Ready for a Relationship

19 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We're diving into the heartache and confusion of hearing "I'm not ready" from someone you're falling for. Inspired by the rollercoaster of emotions fr...

What To Do When Your Anxious Attachment is Pushing a Good Person Away

12 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

If you've ever felt like you're pushing a good person away because of your anxiety, or if you're caught in the same argument cycle every few weeks, th...

What are healthy dating and relationship expectations

05 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Ever find yourself wondering if your needs are too much? Or maybe you're second-guessing every move because you're not sure what's reasonable anymore?...

Love is Blind Season 6 Relationship Coach Breakdown

27 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

If you're as obsessed with Love Is Blind as I am, then you're absolutely in the right place. We're diving deep into the drama, the love, the tears, an...

Are you anxious when he's out of town?

20 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We all know that distance can turn our minds into a wild rollercoaster of "what ifs." In this week's episode I'm here to guide you through it. We're d...

How to NOT be disappointed on Valentine's Day

13 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Valentine's Day just around the corner and I know, the pressure is on. You're probably overthinking what he's planning, dreaming up scenarios, and may...

What is a 'healthy amount' of communication?

06 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

If you've ever found yourself obsessing over whether your text convo rhythm is too hot, too cold, or just right, this episode is going to be your new ...

Healing After a Relationship Ends

30 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're diving deep into something that hits close to home - healing after a relationship ends. Whether it's a breakup, a lost friendship, or navi...

The One Word Stopping You From Healing Your Anxious Attachment

23 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Ever wondered why certain patterns keep showing up in your relationships? There’s a single word that's been secretly holding you back from healing y...