Co-Host Doug Noll (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/dougnoll) Why is it that younger men get into so many more unfortunate altercations than older guys...not just with other men, but also with women? My returning guest Doug Noll is a world-class expert in de-escalating situations with angry or unreasonable people. Known for his book De-Escalate: How To Calm An Angry Person In 90 Seconds Or Less, Doug returns this time for a deep-dive into how mental and emotional maturity makes us better at calming down hysterical women, and even avoiding sticky confrontations altogether. For starters, how can it be that Doug and his wife never fight or argue? What is "affect labeling", and why is it your #1 strategy for cooling down potential altercations? How come arguments between men and women can become so hurtful so fast, and how do we prevent that? Why does Doug believe there's no such thing as "rationality", and ergo, "irrationality"? How does Stoicism enter into all of this? What genius principle has Doug identified that functions like a "yes, and...", only for emotions instead of conversations? What is Doug's foolproof strategy for getting along with a woman on first dates? Next, the one truth that can help you keep your composure even when someone is hurling extremely hurtful invective at you. And how can you be prepared to handle conflict effectively if you're blindsided by it...especially if it doesn't happen very often? What are some practical, effective statements we can use in real-life to do affect labeling on our own, when necessary? Here's another hot take from Doug: Never offer an unsolicited apology. Why not? Have you tried VAMANOS AI yet? Ask it any question and get answers in real time. Never be left on the spot in any situation with women ever again. https://vamanos.chat === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === The show is now available as a VIDEO version on YouTube. For some reason, the episodes seem funnier...if a bit more rough around the edges. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!

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