Black Girls Heal
Episodes
#329: When You’re Too Busy to Find Love
18 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Shena shares a powerful live discussion on what it really means to pursue love when life feels overwhelmingly busy, especially if you...
#328: Why your breakups hit differently (why they hurt so much more)
11 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I go over why your breakup pain hits differently than others, describe the process named "withdrawal," and what you can do ab...
#327: 3 Tips to Cope With a Breakup
04 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
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#326: Where am I in my love addiction journey? (5 stages of healing)
25 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
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#325: Can I be both a love addict and love avoidant?
18 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Let's talk about how you can be both a love addict and love avoidant at the same time.Join me in the BGH Method to break the cycle of love addicti...
Let's work together! - Full program breakdown, what to expect & V-Day bonuses
12 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
I'm hosting a special Valentine's Day sale for my program the BGH Method with tons of bonuses and discounts. Join me while they're availab...
#324: how do I get my time back from this relationship
11 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Listen to this if you feel you lost time in your previous relationshipJoin me in the BGH Method: http://www.blackgirlsheal.org/methodOur Sponsors:* Ch...
#323: You're too pretty for him
04 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
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#322: How To Put Yourself First Pt 4
28 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Shena concludes her examination of how to put yourself first using the Loved Woman Checklist.Click here to download the checklistReso...
#321: The Importance of Touch, Listening, and Softness in Your Life (Loved Woman Part 3)
21 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Shena continues the How To Put Yourself First Series with the Loved Woman Checklist review, Part 3.Resources Mentioned:How to Pick Pa...
#320: How to Put Yourself First Pt. 2 - Building Roots
14 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I continue into the next set of the foundational steps of learning how to truly put yourself first without guilt, fear, or feeling li...
#319: How to Put Yourself First Pt. 1
07 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I dive into the foundational steps of learning how to truly put yourself first without guilt, fear, or feeling like you’re letting ...
#318: Merry Christmas! Merry Chrysler!
25 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
A short Merry Christmas message of gratitude to all members of the BGH listening family!Join me at in the BGH Members Club: http://www.blackgirlsheal....
#317: Youngest Daughters & Childhood Emotional Neglect
16 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I review how childhood emotional neglect may show up for youngest daughters in childhood and how it manifests in adulthood.Resources ...
#316: Middle Daughters and Childhood Emotional Neglect
09 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I review how childhood emotional neglect may show up for middle daughters in childhood and how it manifests in adulthood.Resources me...
#315: Oldest Daughters and Childhood Emotional Neglect
02 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I review how childhood emotional neglect may show up for oldest daughters in childhood and how it manifests in adulthood.Resources me...
#314: You Don't Have to Be the Family Savior
25 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
For those who have felt they have given up much to take care of those in their family and it has become increasingingly overwhelming, this is for you....
#313: The 3 Best Partners for Love Avoidant Archetypes
18 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Shena explores the three archetypes of love avoidants. She unpacks their unique strengths, their fatal flaws, and what healthy love ...
#312: How Love Addicts Can Find Love (4 Ways for Each Archetype)
11 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Shena explores the four archetypes of love addicts. She unpacks their unique strengths, their fatal flaws, and what healthy love look...
#311: Finding Hope When Everything is Not Okay
05 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Shena talks about using hope as an act of resistance when everything is not okay around you.Click here to enroll in the BGH Method, o...
310: 3 Ways to Keep Fostering Deep Love With Your Person
31 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Shena reviews 3 tips to help recovered love addicts and love avoidants foster deep love when you are with your person. The goal is to...
#309: Why Stressed Women Stay and How to Make Them Leave
28 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I review what are the things that will make a woman who is in a relationship that is draining her finally leave and what are the thin...
#308: How to Know They Like You (And Why That's Important)
21 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Shena returns refreshed and ready to dive deep into an important and affirming topic: how to recognize when someone actually likes yo...
#307: Consequences of Being With the Wrong Person (Thoughts from Love Island)
28 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Shena reflects on the consequences and how one's life can be affected if we are connected to those who give red flag behaviors an...
#306: 7 Tips to Recover after a Friendship Breakup
19 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This episode for anyone who is experiencing or has experienced a friendship breakup that has been hard to recover from. I hope these 7 tips help you m...
#305: 4 Ways to Tell the Friendship May Be Temporary
12 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're diving into a topic that often brings up complex emotions - recognizing when friendships mi...
#304: Starting A Healing Circle
05 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we break down how to start creating your own healing circles. Resources mentioned in the episode:Join the BGH's Members Club: bl...
#303: How to Make Adult Female Friendships with Danielle Bayard Jackson
29 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Why is it so difficult for some women to find and maintain healthy female friendships? Joining me today is Danielle Bayard Jackson, The Friendship Exp...
#302: Dealing with Disappointment from Your Mom as an Adult
22 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I talk about managing disappointment from your relationship with your mother as an adult if you have experienced false starts towards...
#301: When Your Mom is Competitive With You
15 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Shena discusses how to cope when you have a mother who is competitive with you, the signs of the jealousy and competition, and potent...
#300: How to Heal From Your Mother Wound?
08 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Our mother relationship is our first relationship as we come into this world. As a result, if we have unresolved trauma, it will manifest in how we se...
#299: How to Stop Financial Codependency
01 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we dive deep into financial codependency—a pattern where you feel obligated to support others financially, even...
#298: How to Feel Deserving
24 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we discuss the crucial topic of feeling deserving and why it's essential for receiving the love you desire. W...
#297: Codependency & Boundaries
17 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Shena discusses healing from codependency to improve your self love and the questions you need to ask yourself to adjust your boundar...
#296: Is it Compatibility or Codependency?
10 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Shena discusses how to tell if the connection that you're feeling in a relationship is codependency or compatibility.Resources me...
#295: 3 Mistakes I made Dating as a Love Avoidant
03 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
When I was dating, I made a lot of mistakes related to how I presented in my intimacy disorders. This week, I'm talking about how my love avoidanc...
#294: 3 Hidden Ways We Ignore (and Encourage) Red Flags in Others
27 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I review 3 hidden ways we may unknowingly ignore (and encourage) red flags in new people we meet.Resources mentioned in the episode:J...
#293: When You Like Someone as a Love Avoidant
20 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What does it look like to be available to others after you've been working on your love avoidance symptoms.In this episode, I share 3 tips for tho...
#292: Going from Being Love Avoidant to Love Available
13 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In today's episode, we review going from Love Avoidant to Love Available using the Healed and Loved Woman framework model.Resources mentioned in t...
#291: Don't Text Them (Sit on Your Hands)
06 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we revisit the topic of 'No Contact' and the seven-day 'Don't Text Them: Sit on Your Effing Hands...
#290: Setting Unrealistic Fantasies as a Love Addict (Love Addiction Series)
29 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Watch our free How to Stop Dating the Wrong People & Fix Your Internal Magnet masterclass: Click here registerReady to heal your Love Addiction &a...
#289: How Childhood Emotional Neglect Leads to Love Addiction (Love Addiction Series)
23 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In today's episode I talk about the impact of childhood emotional neglect and how it leads to the behaviours of love addictionWhether you are conn...
#288: The 4 Archetypes of Love Addiction
15 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Which love addict archetype do you identify with and how do you begin to heal from it?In this week’s episode of Black Girls Heal, I’m breaking dow...
#287: How to Deal with Grief and Unexpectedly Losing a Loved One
08 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
How do you hold yourself through grief when it feels too heavy to carry?In this heartfelt episode of Black Girls Heal, I’m sharing my personal refle...
#285: 3 Mistakes Love Avoidants Make in Dating
25 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Is your fear of intimacy keeping you from the love you want?In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we’re diving deep into love avoidance—what it is,...
#284: 3 Dating Mistakes to Avoid as a Love Addict
18 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Are you falling in love with potential instead of reality?In this episode of Black Girls Heal, I’m diving into three critical mistakes love addicts ...
#283: How to Host a Healing Circle With Friends
11 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, I'm diving deep into how healing circles can transform your journey through love addiction recove...
#282: How to Heal in Community (7 Tips to Make Sisterhood Work)
04 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, I'm diving deep into something that's essential for our healing journey but often overlooked—...
#281: Why You Stay in Relationships When You're Tired
25 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're having an honest conversation about something that hits deep—why we stay in relationships...
#280: How to Cope When Your Dating Partner Stops Responding (No Contact)
18 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're diving deep into something that can shake your whole world—when someone you're dating...
#279: 4 Steps to Help Yourself Heal & Relationships to Flourish
11 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, I'm breaking down the complete framework I use with my coaching clients to transform their relati...
#278: The First 3 Steps to Heal Love Addiction
04 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we dive deep into the topic of love addiction and explore the steps to break free from its cycles. ...
#277: 3 Ways to Not Move Too Fast in a New Relationship
28 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're diving into something that many of us struggle with—protecting our individuality when new...
#276: How I Use Astrology for Love and Healing
21 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, I'm diving deep into how I personally use astrology as a powerful tool for healing and understand...
#275: The 7 Levels of Availability for ALL Relationships
14 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're diving into a game-changing tool that's about to transform how you evaluate potential r...
#274: 3 Ways to Have the Best Relationships in 2025
07 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're kicking off 2025 with a powerful conversation about building stronger, healthier relationsh...
#273: How Fear of Abandonment Affects Your Relationships
26 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Fear of abandonment can create a lot of insecurity and conflict in a relationship. In this episode, we break down 3 signs to look out for to add to yo...
#272: 3 Green Flags Someone is Available for Love (How to Pick Partners for Love Addicts)
18 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I will go over 3 green flags of availability for healthy partners for love addicts pulling from my new book, How to Pick Partners for...
#271: 3 Tips to Deal with Holiday Overwhelm, Stress & Mental Fatigue
12 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
On top of the normal holiday overwhelm, it seems like many of us are dealing with fatigue that we just can't catch a break. In today's episode...
#270: 4 Ways to Tell the Friendship May Be Temporary
26 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're diving into a topic that often brings up complex emotions - recognizing when friendships mi...
#269: Navigating Seasons of Relational Conflict (Throwback episode)
19 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're diving into something all of us face but nobody really wants to talk about - those seasons ...
#268: 4 Reasons to Be Proud of Yourself
12 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're taking a moment to celebrate YOU. Yes, you! We're shifting away from our usual conversa...
#267: 3 Ways to Cope When They Don't Care
05 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're getting real about something that hits deep - what do you do when someone just stops showin...
#266: 7 Benefits of Taking it Slow in a Relationship
29 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we dive into the seven benefits of taking it slow in a relationship — the power of a 'slow burn...
#265: 3 Hidden Ways We Ignore (and Encourage) Red Flags in Others
23 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I review 3 hidden ways we may unknowingly ignore (and encourage) red flags in new people we meet.Our Sponsors:* Check out Infinite Ep...
#264: “Am I Quitting?” and the Future of Black Girls Heal
17 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I talk about why I'm quitting and what's coming next for Black Girls Heal!Resources mentioned in the episode:Register for the...
#263: Checking the Facts When You're in Conflict
01 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we explore the importance of checking the facts when feeling threatened, especially for those healing from trauma...
#262: What To Do When You Feel Rejected
25 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we dive into the poignant topic of rejection, inspired by heartfelt conversations from my recent cruise trip. Foc...
#261: The Importance of Pacing While Dating + Checking In
17 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we dive into a major milestone — our very first video podcast episode! After years of audio-only recordings, I ...
#260: Doing No Contact with a Co-Parent
03 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Black Girls Heal, I delve into the intricacies of implementing a no-contact process while co-parenting. This much-requested topic f...
#259: What to Do When You Like Someone as a Love Avoidant
27 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we're diving into the world of love avoidance and how to navigate new relationships when you're healing f...
#258: What to Do When You Like Someone as a Love Addict
20 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we dive into the intricacies of managing romantic relationships for those in recovery from love addiction. We di...
#257: How Fantasy Fuels Unrealistic Expectations
13 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
You know that feeling when things don't go as planned and you're left feeling disappointed? Yeah, we've all been there. This week on the B...
#256: How Childhood Emotional Neglect Sparks Addictive Relationships
06 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the Black Girls Heal, we’re going to be talking about something really deep today: how what happened to us as kids can mess with ...
#255: Hard Lessons Learned After 10 Years in Love Addiction Recovery
30 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Black Girls Heal, I dive deep into the lessons I've learned over my 10 years of recovery from love addiction. This journey has ...
#254: How to Stop Financial Codependency
23 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we dive deep into financial codependency—a pattern where you feel obligated to support others financially, even...
#253: The 4 Steps of No Contact
16 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, I talk about the power of "no contact" as a tool to finally break free from toxic relationshi...
#252: Don’t text them - Sit on Your Hands
09 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we revisit the topic of 'No Contact' and the seven-day 'Don't Text Them: Sit on Your Effing Hands...
Join our new free Black Girls Heal Circle Community
04 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Join our free Black Girls Heal Circle Community for access to:Inspiration and support regarding love addiction, love avoidance, healing trauma and imp...
#251: Surrender and Letting Go (Just Let Them Be)
02 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we discuss the challenging yet liberating process of surrender and letting go. We explore themes such as grieving...
#250: How to Feel Deserving
25 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we discuss the crucial topic of feeling deserving and why it's essential for receiving the love you desire. W...
#249: Conquering the Fear of Being Seen
18 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode, we get into the topic of the fear of being seen, exploring the underlying trauma that leads to avoidance behaviors and vulnerabi...
#248: Getting Out of the Negative in Relationships
10 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I discuss the importance of moving from negative relationship patterns to positive, healed, and love-filled connections. I also talk ...
#247: 3 Signs You've Grown and Are Healthier
03 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, let’s discuss the importance of recognizing and celebrating personal growth. Reflecting on past conversations with coaching student...
#246: The 4 Seasons of Healing
28 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I go over the 4 seasons of healing everyone will go through when healing from unresolved trauma and relationship issues.Ready to heal...
#245: The First 3 Steps of Healing Love Avoidance
21 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I review the first 3 steps to heal from love avoidance and the issues that get in the way.Click here to download the free roadmapRead...
#244: 4 Ways Family Trauma Will Normalize Emotional Abuse
14 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I talk about 4 examples of emotional abuse that may set us up to be vulnerable to love addicted and love avoidant relationships.Ready...
#243: 3 Ways Love Addicts (Accidentally) Sabotage Their Relationships
07 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
As a love addict, it can be easy to slip into pushing away the love we want by holding on a little bit too tightly.In this episode, I review 3 ways th...
#242: 7 Tips to Recover after a Friendship Breakup
30 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This episode for anyone who is experiencing or has experienced a friendship breakup that has been hard to recover from. I hope these 7 tips help you m...
#241: 3 Ways to Not Be Jaded in Love after Heartbreak
23 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
If you've gone through heartbreak and are feeling jaded or "over" love, in this episode I go over 3 ways for you to work through your jade...
#240: 5 Stages of Healing from Love Addiction
16 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Every person healing from love addiction goes from 5 stages of feeling stuck and confused to Healed and Loved.In this episode, I review each of these ...
#239: Secret Narcissistic Lovebombing Techniques that You Need to Know
02 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I review a typically undetectable way that some narcissists love bomb to help those who may be susceptible to this style of seduction...
#238: Reesa Teesa, Settling, and Finding Your Joy
26 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Shena talk about why some of us may settle in relationships when we feel they are giving us what we are looking for in spite of warni...
#237: Top 15 Things I Do to Manage my ADHD (ADD)
19 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
I have had to put a lot of measures in place to continue to grow and thrive as a neurodivergent person and use it as my superpower.Per listener reques...
#236: Taking a mini break
12 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Hi all!I'm taking a mini break! I'll see y'all in the next episode!Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to j...
#235: Can I stay friends with my ex as a love addict?
05 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Shena goes over 3 questions recovering love addicts can ask themselves if they are wanting to stay friends with an ex?Ready to heal y...
#234: Overspending, Hoarding, Workaholism, and Financial Codependency (Money Trauma Pt 2)
27 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I continue teaching about money trauma and it's intersection into love addiction and love avoidance cycles. Today's episode f...
#233: Money Trauma and Underearning for Love Addicts & Avoidants
22 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Shena talks about money trauma and how it may manifest as underearning - a process that has nothing to do with the amount of money yo...
#231: Mother Hunger with Dr. Piper Grant
06 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Dr. Piper Grant breaks down for us the concept of Mother Hunger and its impact on our lives along with discussing the 3 pillars of mo...
#230: Dealing with Disappointment from Your Mom as an Adult
01 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I talk about managing disappointment from your relationship with your mother as an adult if you have experienced false starts towards...