Breakups and Breakthroughs

EP 116: How Your Attachment Style Shows Up In The Breakup

09 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Timestamps: 00:30 Intro 01:40 Your attachment style isn't set in stone 03:20 A review of the attachment styles  03:45 Secure attachment style  05:3...

EP 115: Do It For The Plot - A New Mindset Hack

02 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Timestamps: 00:30 Intro 01:00 How I've been stuck in routine lately 03:00 What I've started to change 05:30 What does it mean to "do it for the plot?"...

EP 114: How Self-Abandonment Shapes Our Lives & Relationships

25 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Timestamps 00:30 Intro 01:30 How self abandonment shows up, where it starts, how to recognize it when it comes up, and what to do about it 03:00 Self-...

EP 113: Why Heartbreak Feels Like Withdrawals

18 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Timestamps: :30 Intro 01:30 The neuroscience of love addiction, missing them isn't a sign of weakness, and how to detox from a breakup 01:50 Neuroscie...

EP 112: Friendship Rebuild- How To Create Community After Romantic Loss

04 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Timestamps: 00:25 Intro  02:55 Reach out to the connections you had before the breakup 04:10 Don't let ego or mind drama get in the way 06:00 Where ...

EP 111: How To Stop Spiraling Out

28 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Timestamps: 00:25 Intro 02:00 How spiraling affects you  02:25 Four steps to stop the spiral  02:40 The best thing you can do to prevent these spira...

EP 110: 5 Ways To Increase Your Confidence After A Breakup

21 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Timestamps: 00:25 Intro  02:06 Breaking down what confidence is  03:25 Actively induce happy feelings  04:45 What thoughts help you feel good about...

EP 109: The 3 Hidden Reasons You Can't Move On (and How to Break Free)

14 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Timestamps: 00:25 Intro 01:30 My own indecision to move on  03:30 What it means to make the decision to move on 04:40 You're still attached to your e...

EP 108: Why Don't I Feel Like Myself

07 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Timestamps: 00:25 Intro 01:15 How grief affects the brain 04:00 Grief is a part of life 05:20 You may have changed or be in the process of changing  ...

EP 107: How To Reduce Attachment To Your Ex

30 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Timestamps: 00:25 Intro  02:10 How attachment is formed 03:30 3 reasons why you get attached  03:50 How our thoughts create attachment  7:25 How ho...

EP 106: My Biggest Breakup Mistake

23 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Timestamps: 01:00 My Breakup are inhertintely imperfect 02:00 My Breakup Mistakes02:30 The rose colored glasses 04:00 Just because its a prominent me...

EP 105: Why Don't People Want To Date Me?

16 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Timestamps: 00:30 Intro  02:00 What does your dating life actually look like? 05:00 Are you placing yourself in opportunities to meet new people? 06:...

EP 104: When Should You Become Exclusive In Dating?

09 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Timestamps: 00:00 Intro  00:30 The anxiety around the exclusivity conversation 03:00 Do you know their core values and beliefs? 04:30 Do you know the...

EP 103: Is Chat GPT replacing me as a coach?

02 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 00:45 Introducing Chat GPT & AI  03:50 What made me acknowledge the impact of Chat GPT & AI 05:30 Why people are going to Ch...

EP 102: Loving Your Body As It Changes Throughout Life

26 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Loving Your Body Changes Your Life 00:25 — Intro: The truth about body image and self-love 01:45 — Finding my first gray hairs—what it brought u...

EP 101: How much emotional support should you expect from your partner?

19 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

02:55 — A new age of emotional inner work and healing 03:35 — What does "holding space" really mean in relationships? 03:53 — The true definitio...

EP 100: How To Get Closure Without Having A Final Conversation - Modern Closure

12 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

00:25 — Intro: Let's talk about closure after a breakup 00:40 — Can you really heal without a final conversation? 02:25 — Why closure is somethi...

EP 99: Healing When You're Emotionally Exhausted - Breakup Burnout

05 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Timestamps: 00:25 — Intro: Why this year has been emotionally draining 02:15 — Go deep, not wide, in your healing journey 04:45 — How to feel b...

EP 98: How To Break Out Of A Victim Mindset

29 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

00:25 Intro 02:30 My own victim mindset 06:25 Control the controllables 09:51 Look at what's going well 13:10 Where are you contributing to your circu...

EP 97: The Fear of Commitment

22 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

00:25 Intro 02:45 My experience with the fear of commitment 04:15 Signs of the fear of commitment 07:40 Why you might have the fear of commitment 09:2...

EP 96: We've Got To Talk About Cheating

15 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

00:25 intro 02:25 the effects of being cheated on 04:50 what is lying and cheating? 05:55 we need to talk to our partners about what we define cheatin...

EP 95: How To Stand Out On Dating Apps - 5 Things Your Profile Needs

08 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

    Links: Overcome The Fear Of Abandoment - Free Workshop - July 8th @ 6pm EST https://www.shiftyourstory.net/overcomingthefearofabandonmentworksh...

EP 94: When Everything Sucks...How I Use My Tools Daily

01 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

00:00 Intro  01:15 There's a lot going on in the world right now… 05:30 How my coaching tools help me navigate our current world 07:15 Control the ...

EP 93: Boundaries On Social Media Post Breakup

24 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Timestamps: 00:25 Intro 02:10 How you engage in social media will either help you heal or hold you back 02:43 Why it's important to have boundaries ar...

EP 92: How To Make Friends And Rebuild Your Social Network After A Breakup

17 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Timestamps: 00:25 Intro 01:40 Practical steps you can take to rebuild your friendships after a breakup 02:25 Why it's easier to make friends as a kid ...

EP 91: 5 Things To Do When You're Feeling Rejected

10 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Timestamps: 00:25 Intro 01:03 5 steps you can take to deal with rejection 01:25 How rejection impacted me 04:05 Could you be rejecting yourself right...

EP 90: Your Past Doesn't Dictate Your Future- So Don't Let It

03 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Timestamps:  00:25 Intro 04:15 Get curious about what you've normalized and where things could be a different way 06:21 Your brain is trying to prot...

EP 89: How To Stop Feeling Controlled By Anxiety

27 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 01:40 How anxiety affected me 05:00 My turning point 06:50 Why do we get anxious? 09:14 2 Main takeaways from why we get anxio...

EP 88: Is It Ever Okay To Lie?

20 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 02:20 What is lying? 03:10 Lying by omission 05:30 But what about white lies? 07:40 Lying is a slippy slope 08:00 We are all c...

EP 87: Why Healing Isn't Linear—and What to Do When It Feels Like You're Going Backwards

13 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 01:54 What to do when you feel like you're backsliding in your healing journey 03:12 Why healing isn't linear 06:16 Cyclical p...

EP 86: How to anchor into a new identity

06 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Timestamps: 00:00 Intro  01:24 Identity change is uncomfortable 02:24 What inspired this episode - My story 07:59 What beliefs do you hold around the...

EP 85: When to Walk Away - 8 Signs it's over

29 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Timestamps:  00:00 Intro 03:37 #1 You feel like you're constantly walking on eggshells06:01 #2 You are having the same conflicts over and over09:17 ...

EP 84: Love Bombing Vs. Real Love: 3 Ways To Tell The Difference

22 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Time Stamps: 00:00 Intro 02:53 Does the love & affection match the pace of the relationship? 04:05 What does love bombing feel & look like? 05:25 If y...

EP 83: Love Lessons From Our 5-Year Relationship [W/My boyfriend Nate Juliar]

15 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Timestamps: 00:59 Navigating boundaries long term 07:54 Personal example of setting boundaries 11:24 What is a boundary? 11:39 How to handle it when p...

EP 82: 10 Green Flags To Look Out For In Dating

08 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 01:00 1. They can apologize 04:12 2. Ability to receive feedback 06:08 3. Wanting to include you in their life 07:42 4. They'r...

EP 81: 10 red flags you need to watch out for in dating

01 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

TW: Domestic Violence  Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 00:40 Not knowing what you don't know 03:00 Everything has nuance 03:05 1. When they minimize or disc...

EP 80: How To Stop Dating The Wrong People

25 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

00:00 Intro 03:00 A reflection from a friend that woke me up 3:36 The power of choice 4:40 you have the power to make a different choice 5:30 You may ...

EP 79 How to feel confident in dating after a breakup (even if you feel out of practice)

18 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

00:00 Intro  00:30 You're not alone in feeling this way- other people feel nervous too! 03:15 A lot of people don't actually have experience in datin...

EP 78: How to avoid rebounding after a breakup

11 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

00:00 intro 00:30 How we fall into rebounds 4:00 Sleeping with/Dating other people won't get you over your ex 05:00 Our brains get addicted to love 06...

EP 77: How Long Should You Wait To Start Dating Again? Signs You're Ready (Or Not!)

04 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

00:00 Intro  01:40 How long should you wait to start dating again? 03:50 Intuition vs. guilt/shame - How do you feel about your own timeline? 05:20 S...

EP 76: How to stop intrusive thoughts about your ex

25 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

00:00 Intro 01:40 You think about a lot of things in your day 02:00 You don't have to hold thoughts so heavily 02:20 Thinking about your ex was a part...

EP 75: Hoping You And Your Ex Will Get Back Together?

18 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 00:40 What hoping you and your ex will get back together looks like 01:45 Is it normal to hold out hope? 03:00 Feeling guilt...

EP 74: How To Forget Your Ex

11 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

How to forget about your ex and stop thinking about them all of the time so that you can start healing and moving forward. Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 01:...

EP 73: Why You Still Miss Your Ex

04 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Some reasons why you may miss your ex (even months or years after the breakup.) Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 01:30 Missing your ex is part of moving forwar...

EP 72: What To Do When You See Your Ex Move On First

28 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode we are going over practical things you can do when you see your ex move on first. Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 00:30 Seeing your ex move on...

EP 71: How To Stop Obsessing Over An Ex

21 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode: Practical ways to stop obsessing over your ex Why we get stuck in thinking about our exes Mini mindset shifts that will make the pro...

EP 70: How to Stop Romanticizing Your Ex and Start Romanticizing Your Life

14 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode: Why we idealize past relationships, especially after a breakup. The impact of selective memory and how it keeps you stuck. Practical...

EP 69: How Your Attachment Style Shapes Relationships, Breakups, and Dating [W/Jessica Da Silva - Guest Series]

07 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode we cover: How to navigate a breakup based on your attachment style. What to do when old patterns come up in new relationships. How t...

EP 68- The Money Side Of The Breakup [W/ Leah Hadley - Guest Series]

17 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode we cover: The most common financial mistakes people make in relationships that affect them in breakups. Ways to protect yourself fin...

EP 67: Getting Back Into Dating After A Breakup [W/Ilana Dunn Soloman - Guest Series]

10 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 00:30 Meet out guest- Ilana Dunn Soloman! 1:15 How do you know when you're ready to start dating again? 03:00 It's okay to try...

EP 66: How To Make & Maintain Friendships During A Breakup [W/Jewel Hohman - Guest Series]

03 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I am joined by Jewel Hohman and we are diving into how to make and maintain friendships when you are going through the emotional ups a...

EP 65: How To Navigate A High Conflict Divorce [W/ Karen McMahon-Guest Series]

26 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I am joined by Karen McMahon! We are breaking down how to navigate a high conflict divorce so that you come out the other side feeling...

EP 64: Why Am I Still So Upset About The Breakup?

19 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

If you are feeling like you have a lot of emotional charge around your breakup, and you feel like it shouldn't be as strong as it is, then this episod...

EP 63: Why Is It Taking Me So Long To Get Over My Ex?

12 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

If you feel like it's taking you a long time to get over your ex then this episode is going to break down some reasons why that may be the case and wh...

EP 62: How To Know When You're Ready To Date Again

05 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

If you're wondering whether you are ready to date again, then hit play. I'm breaking down 5 things you can look for to indicate that you are ready to ...

EP 61: Q&A [Fear of starting over, How to interact with an ex's new partner, & more!]

29 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Questions featured in this episode: How to deal with the fear of uncertainty & having to start from scratch? - Why do I feel a sense of hyper sexual...

EP 60: Why You Still Love Your Ex (Even Though They Cheated)

22 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Going through a breakup is challenging- especially when you were cheated on. One of the things you may be struggling with is the confusing feelings th...

EP 59: How To Enjoy Single Life

15 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

When you've been in a relationship the adjustment to single life can feel jarring. Maybe you didn't expect to be single again, you've never enjoyed be...

EP 58: 3 Signs You're Getting Over Your Ex

08 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Wondering how long it's going to take you to get over your ex? In this episode, we're going to break it down.  Email me your questions! Subject: Ques...

EP 57: How Long Does It Take To Get Over An Ex?

01 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Wondering how long it's going to take you to get over your ex? In this episode, we're going to break it down.  Email me your questions! Subject: Ques...

EP 56: Help! My Ex Is My Co-Worker

24 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

How do you deal with a brekaup when your ex is your co-worker? Breakups are tough- especially when you have to work with your ex. This episode will gi...

EP 55: I wasted Years Of My Life With My Ex

17 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

When you're going through a breakup it is easy to feel like you've wasted years of your life with your ex because things didn't work out. This episode...

Ep 54: What You Should Do Immediately After A Breakup

10 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Breakups can be so discombulating. If you are going through a breakup and you feel like you don't know what to do with yourself, or what to do next, c...

EP 53: Best Self-Love Practices After A Breakup

03 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Self-love is so helpful in processing a breakup and getting over an ex. In this episode we cover 3 self-love practices that will help you find more pe...

EP 52: How To Rebuild Your Life After A Breakup

27 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

There's so much change that happens when you are going through a breakup or divorce. It can feel like the world as you know it is just crumbling aroun...

EP 51: How To Feel Better After A Breakup

20 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

You're going through a breakup and it feels like someone just reached into your chest and ripped your heart out. You're trying to feel better, to chee...

EP 50: What Do I Do When I Have To See My Ex?

13 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

You're going through a breakup- but you have to see your ex. You work together, have a shared friend group, co-parent, or just live too close together...

EP 49: Feeling Stupid After Your Breakup?

06 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Are you feeling stupid after your breakup? Like you're an idiot, or you should have seen this coming, or you are a fool for feeling this way? This is ...

EP 48: Losing Friends In The Breakup

30 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

One of the hard things that can happen in a breakup is losing friends in the process. If you are going through that, this episode will help you build ...

EP 47: What Are You Making The Breakup Mean?

23 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

When you are going through a breakup you ask yourself loads of questions. "How did this happen? How did we get here? Did I just lose my soulmate? Am I...

EP 46: How To Get Over A Situationship

16 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Have you felt heartbroken over someone but feel like you're not allowed to be because you weren't technically "together"? How about feeling like you'v...

EP 45: Is It Normal To Feel Relief After A Breakup?

09 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Is it normal to feel relief after a breakup? The short answer is yes, but click play to hear why you might be feeling relief after a breakup (especial...

EP 44: What If They Treat Their New Partner Better?

02 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Are you spiraling in the thought of, "but what if they treat their next partner better?" This question has been popping up a lot recently so let's get...

EP 43: A Secret Ingredient To Get Over Your Ex

24 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

I've noticed a trend in clients who have an easier time getting over their exes from others and I think it will help you. In this episode, I walk you ...

Ep 42: My Ex is dating someone exactly like me

18 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Does your exes new partner seem like a carbon copy of you? Grab your headphones and click play.  Podcast Host: Lucy Price Shift Your Story Links Dat...

EP 41: When Happy Couples Trigger You Post Break-Up

11 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Does the sight of a happy couple send you into an emotional spiral? Podcast Host: Lucy Price Shift Your Story Links Date Yourself Group Coaching Prog...

EP 40: Grieving The Relationship Before It Ends

04 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Anticipatory grief is a common experience in a break-up, but one that I don't think gets talked about enough. Anticipatory grief is when you start mou...

EP 39: What Grief Looks Like In A Break-Up

28 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

I often talk about the importance of giving yourself permission to grieve in a break-up. Over the last couple of weeks I've been asked what grief in a...

EP 38: I Wish We Could Go Back To How It Was In The Beginning

21 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

"I just wish we could go back to how it was at the beginning" "I wish we could start over" "It was so fun and easy in the beginning" If you are going...

EP 37: Feel Like You Lost Your Soulmate?

14 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

You're going through a breakup and you feel like you just lost your soulmate. You're trying to figure out how to get over them, how to move on, but yo...

EP 36: How To Stop Being Mad At Your Ex

07 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Are you mad at your ex? Do you find yourself getting lost in fake arguments and made up scenarios post breakup and it's starting to affect your life o...

EP 35: How To Love Yourself

30 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

How do you love yourself? Like, actually love yourself? I think this is probably one of the most searched things on Google, so if you've searched it...

EP 34: Feeling Lost After A Breakup?

23 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do you feel lost ater your breakup? Like your world is falling apart, the carpet got pulled out from under you, and nothing feels right? After a break...

EP 33: Afraid of people leaving you?

16 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

If you have a fear of people leaving you, you aren't the only one. A lot of my clients share with me how they are afraid of being abandoned and the th...

EP 32: How To Not Care About What Other People Think

02 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do you spend a lot of time wondering what other people think about you? Is it causing you to stress out more than you would like? In this episode, I a...

EP 31: When You Feel Alone In Your Breakup

22 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Podcast Host: Lucy Price Shift Your Story Links Interested in working with me? Book a free 30-minute introduction call here:  https://www.shiftyours...

EP 30: How To Be Okay With Being Single

19 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Are you struggling with being newly single? In this podcast episode I'm going to break down in three ways how to change your relationship with being ...

EP 29: Feeling Like Everything With Your Ex Was For Nothing

12 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do you feel like all of that time and energy you invested into the relationship you had with your ex was for nothing since you broke up? In this Epis...

EP 28: How To View Yourself As The Prize

05 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Want to feel like the prize in your relationships? Then hit play.  In this episode, we talk about what it means to feel like the prize in your relat...

EP 27: When You Don't Know Who You Are Anymore After A Breakup

20 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

One of the top things I hear from clients who are working with me after a breakup or divorce is feeling like they don't know who they are anymore. The...

EP 26: Top 3 Myths On How To Move On From Your Ex

06 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

When you google "how to get over your ex" I guarantee one, if not all three, of these myths will come up. In this episode, I'm breaking down the top t...

EP 25: Are You Afraid Of Messing Up A Good Relationship?

23 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Are you terrified of messing it up with someone? Of saying the wrong thing, making the wrong move, and then they'll get turned off and ghost you?  Po...

EP 24: How To Deal With Big Life Changes

09 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Dealing with change and being in the 'messy middle' of life is stressful for most people. Maybe you've grown as a person and no longer fit in with you...

EP 23: What Are Your Beliefs About Relationships Anyway?

26 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

:30 The three cornerstones of growth: mindset, emotional intelligence, and embodiment  3:00 The power of keeping it simple. 3:30 Get curious about ...

EP 22: Reacting Vs. Responding

12 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, we are diving into why we get reactive in our relationships and how to shift into responding instead of reacting. Being reactive is o...

EP 21: What's The Difference Between Friendship And Relationships?

28 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

If you've ever had a, "hold on, what are we to each other?" moment with someone, you aren't alone. The distinction between friend and potential love i...

EP 20: Managing Your Emotions

14 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode we uncover: What "managing your emotions" means How managing (or not managing) your emotions affects the results you get in your rela...

EP 19: What To Do If You Think Someone's Mad At You

31 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever had that creeping anxiety in the back of your mind that someone is mad at you? You feel like they've been touchy with you or avoiding yo...

EP 18: Are you processing or dwelling in the past?

17 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

There comes a point where continually re-hashing an experience from the past is holding you back more than it's helping you.  A lot of us struggle t...

EP 17: Is it love or new relationship energy?

03 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

:15 What is 'New Relationship Energy?' 1:30 What goes into 'New Relationship Energy?' 3:00 The lifespan of New Relationship Energy 3:45 What is limer...