As eminent psychologists Roy F. Baumeister and Dawn Dhavale told us back in 2001 almost no one in the world escapes the craving, depression, fear, and rage that rejection can create. Among college students at Case Western Reserve University, 93% of both sexes reported having been spurned by someone they adored. Moreover, 95% said they had rejected someone who was deeply in love with them. We have addressed almost every aspects of love, relationships and intimacy on our five years doing this podcast but thus far not this one. So let’s dive into this subject and see what other researchers and prominent authorities have to tell us. There are two types of “love” we are going to discuss: First, one person has a crush on someone that is not returned; and second where one person in a relationship decides to end it when the other does not wish to – in other words, a relationship breakup initiated by one party. Here again there are two sides: The person in the role of the person being (as it were) “rejected” – the “rejectee” as it were; and the person doing the “rejection” – the rejecter. Have you ever played either of these roles? Or perhaps both? Statistics say that you probably have. How did you navigate this difficult situation? What effects did it have on you? Were aware of what the effects were in your brain and in your heart – your actual heart, not your metaphorical heart? Then this episode is for you. As its CEO Randolph Pitts turned a small, new film production company, Lumière Films, Inc., into the most successful independent producer/financier in Hollywood, best known for the multi-award winning film "Leaving Las Vegas", for which Nicolas Cage won the Oscar as Best Actor. Today he is a widely respected international motion picture producer and production company executive. He holds Summa Cum Laude degrees in Social Psychology and Egyptology from the University of California Berkeley, and a Masters Degree in Motion Picture Production and Entertainment Law from UCLA. He has also done advanced research for the Department of Psychology at UCLA, concentrating on couples and relationships dynamics. He is a member of Phi Beta Kappa and the American Philosophical Association, the organization of university professors of philosophy. He is also an associate member of the Los Angeles County Bar Association. He has a lifelong interest in the relationship between philosophy, psychology and history. He is the founder, writer and host of the Explore Ecstatic Sensuality podcast, the number one sex and sensuality podcast in the world. The first volume of his eagerly anticipated tetralogy of novels will be published during the third quarter of 2025. Pitts' spellbinding novels deal at an unrelenting fever pitch with eroticism, mysticism, terrorism and crime on a global scale. And also… with women and men falling in love. Advance praise for one of Randolph Pitts' novels: "A sexy thriller that shows New York City in the grip of terrorists, natural disasters and voodoo magic, while at the same time being a moving meditation on love, sensuality, and twenty-first century man's fate in the universe. Possibly the greatest novel of our time. I am going to nominate it for the Pulitzer Prize." #rejection #romance #romantic rejection #breakups #rejection sensitivity

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